Hi,
I am new here and wonder if anyone has gone through this kind of a mess.
So I am 44 and my husband is 50, we have two kids in their early twenties.
We have had a reasonably good marriage and have been close friends since even before we married.
We had our issues in the past, this female was hot after him and buttering him up some years back, it's really stupid, it's a chick he used to play cards with. I thought they were just friends, apparently so did he, but she started getting flirty and telling him all this stuff about how her marriage sucked, and she thought he deserved better, yadda yadda, and he got a big head from this, was calling her late at night etc. She was telling him all this stuff trying to get him to ditch me and to hook up with her, this cow even had the nerve to go on Facebook and message our KIDS trying to get dirt on me....when I figured this out, I promptly responded by becoming the biggest druggie on earth. We had to go to counseling, it was a mess, but we worked it out, and it's been many years back. We hid this from everyone, even the kids, who were young teens.
Otherwise there have been no problems and we have been happy.
A couple year's ago we sold our business and moved. Bought a new house and I started my new job.
So anyways I make quite a good amount of money. So we can live on just my income. So I did not worry when my husband didn't have a job right away. I didn't even care if he just wanted to work part time. Or work from home. But the first year he didn't do anything, just slept all the time. He would get up in the afternoon and go sit in the chair and sleep. Not even cook or clean. I thought he was depressed or sick, and kept getting him to go to the doctor, and he is on antidepressants and blood pressure stuff.
Finally after a year he did get a job but quit after two months. He don't like getting up early. Now he sleeps all the time or watches TV or plays computer. I don't like when he is just laying around because I feel like he is depressed but I don't know how to help. He gets mad if I say anything or worry. Also I don't like it because he will go shopping on the computer and buy all this stuff we don't need. Expensive stuff like $500-600 on just junk and he don't use it when it gets here.
Also he don't never want to have sex with me, I feel like he doesn't love me, and I'm just in his life to take care of things for him. It's really depressing.
When I try to talk to him he gets mad.
I am new here and wonder if anyone has gone through this kind of a mess.
So I am 44 and my husband is 50, we have two kids in their early twenties.
We have had a reasonably good marriage and have been close friends since even before we married.
We had our issues in the past, this female was hot after him and buttering him up some years back, it's really stupid, it's a chick he used to play cards with. I thought they were just friends, apparently so did he, but she started getting flirty and telling him all this stuff about how her marriage sucked, and she thought he deserved better, yadda yadda, and he got a big head from this, was calling her late at night etc. She was telling him all this stuff trying to get him to ditch me and to hook up with her, this cow even had the nerve to go on Facebook and message our KIDS trying to get dirt on me....when I figured this out, I promptly responded by becoming the biggest druggie on earth. We had to go to counseling, it was a mess, but we worked it out, and it's been many years back. We hid this from everyone, even the kids, who were young teens.
Otherwise there have been no problems and we have been happy.
A couple year's ago we sold our business and moved. Bought a new house and I started my new job.
So anyways I make quite a good amount of money. So we can live on just my income. So I did not worry when my husband didn't have a job right away. I didn't even care if he just wanted to work part time. Or work from home. But the first year he didn't do anything, just slept all the time. He would get up in the afternoon and go sit in the chair and sleep. Not even cook or clean. I thought he was depressed or sick, and kept getting him to go to the doctor, and he is on antidepressants and blood pressure stuff.
Finally after a year he did get a job but quit after two months. He don't like getting up early. Now he sleeps all the time or watches TV or plays computer. I don't like when he is just laying around because I feel like he is depressed but I don't know how to help. He gets mad if I say anything or worry. Also I don't like it because he will go shopping on the computer and buy all this stuff we don't need. Expensive stuff like $500-600 on just junk and he don't use it when it gets here.
Also he don't never want to have sex with me, I feel like he doesn't love me, and I'm just in his life to take care of things for him. It's really depressing.
When I try to talk to him he gets mad.
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