Looking back at other more passionate relationships I have had, one of the more passionate I had I *think* the guy was really somewhat CONTROLLING, though I wonder if I am off base with that (my reason for bringing this up is because I have found myself analyzing my current situation which needs work - LD hubby - and trying to tell myself that ALL R's have issues, and some of mine in years past were a LOT worse than what I have now!).
Is this normal behavior?
*Going through someone's purse (or wallet) when they aren't present without permission
*Saying "you are mine"
*Constantly thinking other people are 'checking you out' when they aren't
*Giving you the silent treatment if you go out and do something even AFTER the other party had told you it was o.k. to go out and do it.
*Giving compliments that are somehow include something negative - "I like your hair, but quit wearing XXXXX, it makes you look like you are 90 years old."
I think back to that one passionate R and think that no matter HOW much passion was there, I am better off now in a R with a LD spouse than in one that is super passionate but has all of that kind of stuff. I haven't thought about old R's in YEARS, but with all of the problems we have had lately in a 24 year R, I find myself going back and critiquing all of the other R's I've ever had, I guess trying to see if I really don't have it as bad as I thought. Just curious about this one particular one, though..........was I crazy for putting up with all of that????
Sunshine
Is this normal behavior?
*Going through someone's purse (or wallet) when they aren't present without permission
*Saying "you are mine"
*Constantly thinking other people are 'checking you out' when they aren't
*Giving you the silent treatment if you go out and do something even AFTER the other party had told you it was o.k. to go out and do it.
*Giving compliments that are somehow include something negative - "I like your hair, but quit wearing XXXXX, it makes you look like you are 90 years old."
I think back to that one passionate R and think that no matter HOW much passion was there, I am better off now in a R with a LD spouse than in one that is super passionate but has all of that kind of stuff. I haven't thought about old R's in YEARS, but with all of the problems we have had lately in a 24 year R, I find myself going back and critiquing all of the other R's I've ever had, I guess trying to see if I really don't have it as bad as I thought. Just curious about this one particular one, though..........was I crazy for putting up with all of that????
Sunshine
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