I just got dumped after a 3 year relationship and I realised I made a fatal error of being in a relationship- spent all my time on my boyfriend and drifted out of contact with all my friends. Being naive, I believed this was going to last forever and he was enough for me to spend all my time with and for me to be happy. Obviously now I'm single and I realise I haven't spoken to people who were my friends before for 1/2/3 years. Yes, I know how pathetic this is.
I would feel so awkward now though just messaging someone out of the blue and being all 'hey I know we haven't talked in years but how are you, want to grab a drink?' Because it's rude because I haven't made the effort to talk to them for a while and I know that's bad, but I'm so alone right now :( Also being broken up with has made my self esteem plummet and I believe that no one will want to talk to me or spend any time with me again.
What are people's opinions on this?
{{The rest of this is just extra information if you want to read, but if too long, if you could just help with the question above}}
I went to uni with 80% guys so I didn't really have many female friends. I fell out with some because they started wanting to become BNOCs (their own words) and I'm not into that. There's 2 girls that I've messaged and I see them from time to time now.
The majority of the people I knew at uni were guys. Before I met my boyfriend I was really flirty and the majority of guys I knew and was good friends with I had kissed or fooled around with (I always made it clear though I was not looking for commitment so that no one would be led on). I was always hanging out with people at halls or going to house parties. Would it be appropriate to still message them, or would they think I'm just a slut?
Now I live with my ex far away from anyone I even did know. Most people finished uni so no house parties. The people who have finished uni are bankers and go out to expensive nights out with bottles of champagne- no thank you.
Who do I reach out to? Who would it be least awkward? I have no confidence in myself anymore. I used to have so many friends and people really liked talking to me, I can't believe I let myself get like this.
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