I know this is probably not a new topic but I need some advice or to know that I am not alone in this.
I have developed some feelings for my husbands best friend in the past year.
First off, let me start by saying that I would absolutely, 110% never try to act on the feelings. My marriage hasn't been the best marriage but I still do not believe in cheating, especially when it would tear apart a 30 year old friendship.
His friend has been going through a tough time and I feel like a lot of my "feelings" started when we were helping him through it. I caught myself wanting to console him/make him feel better. Like I wanted to be there for him, take on the motherly role and fix things. I have always felt that he was an attractive person but I never thought anything other than that.
I now catch myself having little fantasies about him and I have been having sexual dreams about him lately.
I am not looking to pursue anything or even admit any of these things to him or my husband. What I need is some advice on how to nip this is the bud.
I don't think having fantasies about other men when you are married is wrong, but I do have a sense of guilt that they are about a childhood friend of my husband and who was the best man at our wedding.
Any advice or anyone else going through something similar?
I have tried pushing him out of my mind and it works usually until I have a dream about him.
I have developed some feelings for my husbands best friend in the past year.
First off, let me start by saying that I would absolutely, 110% never try to act on the feelings. My marriage hasn't been the best marriage but I still do not believe in cheating, especially when it would tear apart a 30 year old friendship.
His friend has been going through a tough time and I feel like a lot of my "feelings" started when we were helping him through it. I caught myself wanting to console him/make him feel better. Like I wanted to be there for him, take on the motherly role and fix things. I have always felt that he was an attractive person but I never thought anything other than that.
I now catch myself having little fantasies about him and I have been having sexual dreams about him lately.
I am not looking to pursue anything or even admit any of these things to him or my husband. What I need is some advice on how to nip this is the bud.
I don't think having fantasies about other men when you are married is wrong, but I do have a sense of guilt that they are about a childhood friend of my husband and who was the best man at our wedding.
Any advice or anyone else going through something similar?
I have tried pushing him out of my mind and it works usually until I have a dream about him.
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