My husband and I have been together for about six years. We've had our money problems in the past as he hasn't been able to hold down a full time job for longer than six months since we got married (2 years ago). Initially, it wasn't for lack of trying. He's applied to tons of jobs but hasn't been getting call backs. Eventually, we decided that he would stay at home with our son, our daughter's in daycare still, while he completes his bachelor's degree.
Recently, new things have come up. Like, the AC in our car stopped working, we live in Florida. I don't make enough to get a new car but it's stressful to drive a car in 80 degree weather, 5 o'clock traffic, and two unhappy kids. Daycare is becoming a hassle as they're raising the rates. I'm looking for a better paying job, but no luck.
My thing is, am I wrong for wanting my husband to want to step up? I feel as if I'm drowning. I'm robbing Peter to pay Paul on all our bills as I don't make enough to cover our expenses: rent, internet, light, water, daycare, food. Since I don't make enough to pay bills I feel like I'm just working at a miserable job, just to barely cover bills. I'm in grad school now because I feel like an advanced degree will help me get a better job. I use student loans to help with bills.
I don't know what to do at this point. If I talk to him, he gets defensive. I'm stuck and depressed and I'm unsure of what my next step should be....:mad: I want him to get a degree but it's stressful supporting an entire family with growing needs on my own. Sorry to vent.
Recently, new things have come up. Like, the AC in our car stopped working, we live in Florida. I don't make enough to get a new car but it's stressful to drive a car in 80 degree weather, 5 o'clock traffic, and two unhappy kids. Daycare is becoming a hassle as they're raising the rates. I'm looking for a better paying job, but no luck.
My thing is, am I wrong for wanting my husband to want to step up? I feel as if I'm drowning. I'm robbing Peter to pay Paul on all our bills as I don't make enough to cover our expenses: rent, internet, light, water, daycare, food. Since I don't make enough to pay bills I feel like I'm just working at a miserable job, just to barely cover bills. I'm in grad school now because I feel like an advanced degree will help me get a better job. I use student loans to help with bills.
I don't know what to do at this point. If I talk to him, he gets defensive. I'm stuck and depressed and I'm unsure of what my next step should be....:mad: I want him to get a degree but it's stressful supporting an entire family with growing needs on my own. Sorry to vent.
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