Hello everyone,
My husband and I have been struggling for along time. The marriage has been in trouble almost right away. We have grown apart due to his being a total workaholic and never around anyway.
Saturday we went to breakfast and to get some tires fixed and while I was waiting in his truck as it was taking forever to get two tires fixed. I thought well I might as well do something being his truck is always messy so he had a plastic bag in there so I thought I would tidy it up a bit. I was picking up old papers, napkins, rags and cleaning out his glove box and I came across a card at first I thought it was from me because the writing looked like mine but when I opened it here it was from his ex finance (about how much she loved him always and forever and that they were meant to be together) and as I looked further in his glove box here is a picture of her. Both items are in pristine condition in a messy mechanics truck.
I was crushed finding these considering we had issues with her before we got married and considering seeing in this whole truck all he had from me was a I love you note and a CD Sleeve which were both dirty and destroyed but her items were nicely taking care of in his glove box.
I didn't say anything to him about what I found. I hardly said anything to him on our way home and wasn't really in a good mood last night. We don't communicate well anymore like I said we don't have much of a relationship/marriage left so I really didn't know what to say because everything and anything is a problem.
She has been gone out of the picture (she left him for someone else) I believe for at least 3-4 years or better and is married with children. I don't even know when the card was from and I know the picture was from she was a teenager. He may not even remember them being in there I don't know. But it's just how we are now with our relationship and how he acts about her now versus when we got together I feel like a mistake he made and he should have chosen her and he regrets me daily.
He used to act like she was terrible to him and had these stories about how bad she was and he won the lottery when he met me and now he acts like she was wonderful to him and I'm the awful and mean one.
I just feel bad and feel at such a loss with finding that in his truck am I over thinking it? Am I just being insecure because we're in a bad place and not were I hoped we would be? It's always been in the back of my mind that maybe he wasn't over her and this so adds to it. Any advice would be so helpful.
Thanks
My husband and I have been struggling for along time. The marriage has been in trouble almost right away. We have grown apart due to his being a total workaholic and never around anyway.
Saturday we went to breakfast and to get some tires fixed and while I was waiting in his truck as it was taking forever to get two tires fixed. I thought well I might as well do something being his truck is always messy so he had a plastic bag in there so I thought I would tidy it up a bit. I was picking up old papers, napkins, rags and cleaning out his glove box and I came across a card at first I thought it was from me because the writing looked like mine but when I opened it here it was from his ex finance (about how much she loved him always and forever and that they were meant to be together) and as I looked further in his glove box here is a picture of her. Both items are in pristine condition in a messy mechanics truck.
I was crushed finding these considering we had issues with her before we got married and considering seeing in this whole truck all he had from me was a I love you note and a CD Sleeve which were both dirty and destroyed but her items were nicely taking care of in his glove box.
I didn't say anything to him about what I found. I hardly said anything to him on our way home and wasn't really in a good mood last night. We don't communicate well anymore like I said we don't have much of a relationship/marriage left so I really didn't know what to say because everything and anything is a problem.
She has been gone out of the picture (she left him for someone else) I believe for at least 3-4 years or better and is married with children. I don't even know when the card was from and I know the picture was from she was a teenager. He may not even remember them being in there I don't know. But it's just how we are now with our relationship and how he acts about her now versus when we got together I feel like a mistake he made and he should have chosen her and he regrets me daily.
He used to act like she was terrible to him and had these stories about how bad she was and he won the lottery when he met me and now he acts like she was wonderful to him and I'm the awful and mean one.
I just feel bad and feel at such a loss with finding that in his truck am I over thinking it? Am I just being insecure because we're in a bad place and not were I hoped we would be? It's always been in the back of my mind that maybe he wasn't over her and this so adds to it. Any advice would be so helpful.
Thanks
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