Long story short, my husband is less than thrilled with me over my lack of enthusiasm at his announcement that his employer offered him a new position at the company.
The higher ups recognize that H is an asset to the company but he's starting to get bored at his current job. The new job is highly challenging but comes at a high risk (it's not easy, he has no experience doing it, and the last three guys who held the job either quit or were fired). To add, it is considered a lateral move for H (no raise or promotion). Unfortunately, the company's structure has no available place for promotion; he'd have to wait until his boss retires or dies:(
My issue is not the job itself, as I want him to enjoy what he's doing. My problem is that I brought up having to ramp up my career again to minimize the risk of job loss on his end. A few years ago I basically revved down my career in order to better balance work and motherhood. I chose to give up the sales portion of my job in exchange for limited travel (maybe 2 weeks a year) and all of the flexibility I needed for parent/child activities. It came at a price – good salary but the bonuses and big promotions dried up, e.g. less $$$ for me overall.
In my opinion, he wants to have his cake and eat it too. He wants to take this 'challenging' yet risky job (with no associated raise or promotion) because he's bored at work, but he doesn't want to assume the liability. Ramping back up at my job would require me to travel more which would result in him having to take on more household and childcare responsibilities.
He's incredibly disappointed in my response but I just can't share his enthusiasm for something that has the ability to hurt us financially down the road….unless we take necessary precautions. I'm trying to be fair about this whole thing but he doesn't see it that way.
He can't have his cake and eat it too! Is there anything I can say to help me convince him that this is a fair trade-off?
The higher ups recognize that H is an asset to the company but he's starting to get bored at his current job. The new job is highly challenging but comes at a high risk (it's not easy, he has no experience doing it, and the last three guys who held the job either quit or were fired). To add, it is considered a lateral move for H (no raise or promotion). Unfortunately, the company's structure has no available place for promotion; he'd have to wait until his boss retires or dies:(
My issue is not the job itself, as I want him to enjoy what he's doing. My problem is that I brought up having to ramp up my career again to minimize the risk of job loss on his end. A few years ago I basically revved down my career in order to better balance work and motherhood. I chose to give up the sales portion of my job in exchange for limited travel (maybe 2 weeks a year) and all of the flexibility I needed for parent/child activities. It came at a price – good salary but the bonuses and big promotions dried up, e.g. less $$$ for me overall.
In my opinion, he wants to have his cake and eat it too. He wants to take this 'challenging' yet risky job (with no associated raise or promotion) because he's bored at work, but he doesn't want to assume the liability. Ramping back up at my job would require me to travel more which would result in him having to take on more household and childcare responsibilities.
He's incredibly disappointed in my response but I just can't share his enthusiasm for something that has the ability to hurt us financially down the road….unless we take necessary precautions. I'm trying to be fair about this whole thing but he doesn't see it that way.
He can't have his cake and eat it too! Is there anything I can say to help me convince him that this is a fair trade-off?
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