So, me and my boyfriend have been together for 5 months. He is the first guy I have ever been in a relationship with.
We met at work, when I worked extra hours over the Summer. I currently go to University and go back home at the weekends to work Saturdays. So we're kind of in a long distance relationship, since I only see him briefly on Saturdays (while we're at work) and Sundays.
After about 3 months of going out, I noticed my boyfriend liking girls instagram/facebook pictures. And im not talking about innocent selfies of them holding their cat. I'm talking about more provocative pictures, like selfies of girls showing their cleavage, looking sultry, etc.
So we had a bit of an argument and I told him it bothered me and found it disrespectful. And he said it made him feel cr*p that I didnt trust him and that maybe he should just delete his social network accounts altogether, etc, etc - which on reflection, makes me question why he got so defensive? But anyway..we made up and I decided i was probably just being paranoid and jealous (which are things I never thought I'd ever be! I've always considered myself a laid back, liberal kind of person).
Also, I once confronted him about why he didnt like me trying to steal his phone on one occasion. When I tried to take his phone off of him, it was in a purely playful way, I wasnt going to even look at it, I was just messing around - but it was only when he locked his phone, got very uptight and wouldn't let me anywhere near it that I thought - ''hang on, why is he being so secretive about me seeing what's on his phone?'' He said he had no interest in looking at my phone and again suggested that I didnt trust him.
So I noticed he started following this girl on instragram last week and saw today that he had became friends with her on Facebook (this girl is a mutual friend of his friend Sophie, a girl who used to work at our place of work). She also happens to be mixed race, like me, which is what my boyfriend is 'into', I guess. She also has pictures which are VERY provocative, wearing very tight, short dresses, showing cleavage....you get the picture. She also liked a selfie of my boyfriend which he posted the other day (yes, I'm getting stalkerish and paranoid and i'm starting to hate myself for it).
So I guess im just a little concerned about my boyfriend being friends with this girl, especially since im away at university all week.
My boyfriend tells me he loves me and that I am his world and that he wants us to be together forever - and I feel the same. But having seen all of this, I feel so anxious about the possibility of him cheating on me. But I'm worried that if i bring this up with my boyfriend, it'll damage our relationship if I keep doubting his trust.
Am I just being paranoid and jealous? I do realise that its human nature to be attracted to other people who aren't necessarily your girlfriend/boyfriend. But to blatantly like girls pictures and be secretive with his phone? I'm just so worried im going to get hurt.
Any advice or opinions would be much appreciated.
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