New here so I hope this is the right place,
Here is the rundown,
Married to WW 12 years, together 17 her first EA lasting six months turning into PA the last month and happening twice was three years into the M (2006). We wanted to save the M so I put my head down and went all in, I think/thought she did to. A year of counseling, renewed vows and a lot of hard work and seemed like everything was good. Two years later(2008) was some inappropriate texting with another guy, she wasn't deleting the text and they were not sexual or suggestive in any way but imo any texting with any man other than me is inappropriate when it is done just casually with no real reason. I strongly stated my stance on this and it stopped. Everything good as it could be from then until Jan 23 2015 I monitored her actions, phone, computer, FB and all that. The transparency was there the whole time through 2013 when I thought I was just wasting time after finding nothing for five years and quit. Then D-day I was making up the bed and her phone fell on the floor and I thought, well been awhile so I checked it and there were text between one of her friends that another guys name was mentioned (she used to work with him). I immediately confronted her and she started the T.T. and said it had been going on since May 2014 which is when he left the job(the evidence backs that up). and It was only flirty innuendo type stuff, after a week the whole truth came out and it had turned into a PA the last month before I found out and happened twice. So here I am now and need help/opinions on if this M is even salvageable at this point. The first A was exposed to the OMW, our pastor,my sister and one of her close friends and that was it(I feel the less people in your business the better off you are). She was totally remorseful and did everything that I asked with no hesitation or hurry and I feel like she was honest about everything. The same this time too though, she says she knows she has a problem and is willing to do what ever it takes to get it str aightened out. She compared it to a drug addict that does right until they take that first hit again and then it just will not go away(the rush she gets when another man pays her attention even though she says I am good at that but not perfect). Anybody out there worked through two As and came out better on the other end. Just needed some of that been there to advice/input.
Here is the rundown,
Married to WW 12 years, together 17 her first EA lasting six months turning into PA the last month and happening twice was three years into the M (2006). We wanted to save the M so I put my head down and went all in, I think/thought she did to. A year of counseling, renewed vows and a lot of hard work and seemed like everything was good. Two years later(2008) was some inappropriate texting with another guy, she wasn't deleting the text and they were not sexual or suggestive in any way but imo any texting with any man other than me is inappropriate when it is done just casually with no real reason. I strongly stated my stance on this and it stopped. Everything good as it could be from then until Jan 23 2015 I monitored her actions, phone, computer, FB and all that. The transparency was there the whole time through 2013 when I thought I was just wasting time after finding nothing for five years and quit. Then D-day I was making up the bed and her phone fell on the floor and I thought, well been awhile so I checked it and there were text between one of her friends that another guys name was mentioned (she used to work with him). I immediately confronted her and she started the T.T. and said it had been going on since May 2014 which is when he left the job(the evidence backs that up). and It was only flirty innuendo type stuff, after a week the whole truth came out and it had turned into a PA the last month before I found out and happened twice. So here I am now and need help/opinions on if this M is even salvageable at this point. The first A was exposed to the OMW, our pastor,my sister and one of her close friends and that was it(I feel the less people in your business the better off you are). She was totally remorseful and did everything that I asked with no hesitation or hurry and I feel like she was honest about everything. The same this time too though, she says she knows she has a problem and is willing to do what ever it takes to get it str aightened out. She compared it to a drug addict that does right until they take that first hit again and then it just will not go away(the rush she gets when another man pays her attention even though she says I am good at that but not perfect). Anybody out there worked through two As and came out better on the other end. Just needed some of that been there to advice/input.
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