Hi guys,
Just looking for a bit of advice really: basically I met a guy a couple of months ago, and we have been talking pretty much every day by text ever since; there has only been about 2 days in that time where we have gone without speaking. As the friendship has developed, we've started having long chats on the phone as well at least once a week, his messages have gone from ending in 2 kisses to ending in 10/11 and I have seen him fairly frequently with his family. A couple of weeks back he asked me if I wanted to go out for some food with him so I said yes, and it was fine... The thing is, he's been giving me really mixed signals for a while now; sometimes, he will say some things that make me think "he is interested", like telling me that a dress looked good on me, and saying "as long as you like me I'm not bothered" etc... then he'll be unresponsive towards me and make me think I'm friend-zoned.
Anyway, we had agreed to go Christmas shopping last Monday, and a couple of days before he had said a few things that made me think he might perhaps like me again: the main one being "I wanted to see you in your pyjamas" when my suitcase went missing at the airport containing my favourite pyjamas, and telling me that he only wears boxers when I replied with "I'll show you if I get them back, show you mine if you show me yours". To me, that seems quite suggestive. So I thought I might be brave and give the signals that I like him. When we went shopping I linked up to his arm all the way round, and towards the end of the trip I started to cuddle into him a little bit at times and give him affectionate touches, like on the back, shoulders and leg. He was pretty unreceptive to these moves, and although he wasn't very warm towards me he didn't go completely quiet. When I dropped him off, he said he would leave the CD he bought in my car so that I could put it on every time I picke d him up, suggesting that he still wanted to keep seeing me.
But ever since, he's been pretty cold with me. I text him the following day and he ignored it, something he's never done before. I then text him on Christmas day and he replied, but it seemed as though it was more out of courtesy than actually wanting to speak to me, and he put less kisses on the messages. I just feel really stupid, humiliated and rubbish about myself now, I feel really repulsive! :( We have exchanged a couple of texts since then, but it is always me who initiates conversation, he hasn't got in touch with me first once since that day. The thing is, I have a lot to do with his family and will keep seeing him fairly regularly through them, so of course I don't want it to be awkward; but more than anything, I just somehow want to get our friendship back to the way it was!! I miss speaking to him and I feel upset that he has gone so quiet. I really don't know what I can do for the best :( any advice from anyone? Would be really grateful :)
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