Right long story, but I just feel I need some sort of guidance for this.
Not so long ago, I have been talking to a girl, her 17 - me 16. She has told me she has a boyfriend however she seems that she is stuck between views of staying with him or leaving him. She has told me that she is becoming fed up of him not treating her right nor making an effort. Now - I have begun to get feelings for her but never announced them to her, it was just a close friendship. She has been going out with him for a number of years now but recently told me that "I have feelings for you", "How do you feel about having me as a gf" and also "My decision might be you" type messages. Now I have told her that I would definitely say yes to having her as a gf but made sure that I wouldn't pressure her at all into what she does.
After assuring her that even if she stays with him I wouldn't change how I feel for her, I feel deep down really bad as she seems incredibly confused and upset of where she stands in terms of her relationship with him and has been complaining but seemed sad about the concept of leaving him, (I am wondering whether this is because of being with him for a number of years, she said she couldn't imagine any different).
I am the type of person who would never encourage her to leave her current bf, as much as I would strongly want her as a gf - I would rather her be happy with her current bf than regret leaving him for me in the future, she seems to understand this and acknowledged it.
However, my main concern is that she has been really upset about the issue recently and I have just been assuring her that everything will be fine but it doesn't seem to be working, I don't know what to do!
Just rather confused and having not had a relationship before, I am rather upset that any of this has happened and care deeply for how she is but feel I am making things worse...
Initially, and currently I believe I should just let her decide alone - but I want to help her in some sort of way, any suggestions as to what to do?
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