I've been dating this girl for a few months exclusively. We get on well and the sex is great but I felt like she was not really been putting in as much effort as I would like. I always cook her dinner and take her out etc. The last straw came when she FINALLY invited me for dinner at her place on Thursday or Friday, and I couldn't make either of those dates because I was leaving for a last minute vacation. When I told her I couldn't make those dates, she just said "ok, have a nice time and drop me a line when you are back in town." I tried to reschedule for the following day Wednesday, and she said sure, but that she couldn't make me dinner because it was inconvenient for her that night and she didn't have the right groceries. I tried to twist her arm about it but she basically told me to stop badgering her and that she'd cook for me when she had the time, but that I could still come over.
I felt kind of bummed and it made me feel like she thought I was stalking her or something, so I cancelled the date. I thought about things and realised that I need someone more adaptable and more caring, and willing to do things at short notice. She's always kind of been hard to read and everything is on her terms all the time. I didn't like that feeling. I asked her if I could come over when I'm back next week, but she didn't get back to me all day, so finally, I decided to call it quits. I'm busy with work and have a lot going on in my life, so couldn't really handle dealing with chasing her all the time. When she got back to me, I asked what time would be good to call. I called her up when she was free the next day, which happened to be on the way to the airport and basically said I didn't think it was working out, and that we're not compatible. She is a funny and bright girl and I like her, and I hoped we could talk about it, but she was really offended and found it comp letely disrespectful that I hadn't waited to see her and talk about things and break up in person. She basically said "good luck with everything" and hung up. It sounded to me like she was saying 'have a nice life', like she never wants to speak to me again. She then sent me a text asking me to post her any stuff she left at my place when I got back. I said sorry if I handled it wrong, and I hope we can speak in future, but she has ignored me. Is it so terrible to break up over the phone?
I felt kind of bummed and it made me feel like she thought I was stalking her or something, so I cancelled the date. I thought about things and realised that I need someone more adaptable and more caring, and willing to do things at short notice. She's always kind of been hard to read and everything is on her terms all the time. I didn't like that feeling. I asked her if I could come over when I'm back next week, but she didn't get back to me all day, so finally, I decided to call it quits. I'm busy with work and have a lot going on in my life, so couldn't really handle dealing with chasing her all the time. When she got back to me, I asked what time would be good to call. I called her up when she was free the next day, which happened to be on the way to the airport and basically said I didn't think it was working out, and that we're not compatible. She is a funny and bright girl and I like her, and I hoped we could talk about it, but she was really offended and found it comp letely disrespectful that I hadn't waited to see her and talk about things and break up in person. She basically said "good luck with everything" and hung up. It sounded to me like she was saying 'have a nice life', like she never wants to speak to me again. She then sent me a text asking me to post her any stuff she left at my place when I got back. I said sorry if I handled it wrong, and I hope we can speak in future, but she has ignored me. Is it so terrible to break up over the phone?
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