Hi Guys, I just wanted to brain dump the culmination of my last year of experiences with women after being cheated on by my wife of 8 years.
It saddens me to say this, but I have thought about it a lot and I have come to the conclusion that society has come to a point in history where the value that many women (OK, and men) put in a long term marriage has dwindled to the point of being a joke.
Now, this hasn't happened overnight, and it certainly has been driven by both sides of society, but the result is a society where women are more independent and men are more effeminate. It's a fact.
The real irony is that women who claim they want a more sensitive man, a man who is loyal (won't cheat), who gives his woman complete freedom is exactly the same man that most women consider to be WEAK and POWERLESS and actually attracted to them physically and mentally.
It has taken me a year separated from my wife to realise and accept that the power I once thought I had in my relationship was an illusion (allowed by my wife) and that the feminist, overprotective mother I was brought up by has ultimately prepared me for failure in that relationship, and with a good portion of modern dominant women.
So men. What are our options?
1. Harden up.
I hear this a lot, and it usually comes from men who have had the benefit of a balanced upbringing. Perhaps an upbringing with a father who was manly and emotionally present, and a mother who was submissive in nature. Throw in a few boisterous brothers and hey presto, a well balanced man.
The reality is though that this is rarely the case in my opinion, and that life long conditioning is unable to be changed quickly or probably at all.
SO, what to do for the men out there who are not "hard" (which is now the majority of men in my opinion).
Well, we either find a very rare woman from the old world, who still holds traditional values, who loves to cook for her man, yearns to be a mother and holds a lifelong marriage at the pinnacle of her belief system...
OR
We can join the hoard of single men (of all ages) who simply accept they want a casual "good looking" girlfriend and accept they will miss out on the feelings associated with a long term relationship.
I am now dating a woman from the old world with a heart of gold, but is average looking. I have come to accept that the woman I desire with a great body, gorgeous face and also all the values that we so desire simply no longer exists in today's society. I have been on enough dates to see it. It is a unicorn, and extremely rare to say the least.
Having been married to a "hot girl" who cheated on me, this leaves me in a difficult place (as a primal male). Do I enjoy the company of a wonderful woman and accept the stress associated with looking sideways at other women the rest of my life, OR continue to date hot women and get hurt (or worse still, get married and f*cked over again).
Are either options ideal? No, Not in my opinion.
But, this is the new game. Things have moved on.
It saddens me to say this, but I have thought about it a lot and I have come to the conclusion that society has come to a point in history where the value that many women (OK, and men) put in a long term marriage has dwindled to the point of being a joke.
Now, this hasn't happened overnight, and it certainly has been driven by both sides of society, but the result is a society where women are more independent and men are more effeminate. It's a fact.
The real irony is that women who claim they want a more sensitive man, a man who is loyal (won't cheat), who gives his woman complete freedom is exactly the same man that most women consider to be WEAK and POWERLESS and actually attracted to them physically and mentally.
It has taken me a year separated from my wife to realise and accept that the power I once thought I had in my relationship was an illusion (allowed by my wife) and that the feminist, overprotective mother I was brought up by has ultimately prepared me for failure in that relationship, and with a good portion of modern dominant women.
So men. What are our options?
1. Harden up.
I hear this a lot, and it usually comes from men who have had the benefit of a balanced upbringing. Perhaps an upbringing with a father who was manly and emotionally present, and a mother who was submissive in nature. Throw in a few boisterous brothers and hey presto, a well balanced man.
The reality is though that this is rarely the case in my opinion, and that life long conditioning is unable to be changed quickly or probably at all.
SO, what to do for the men out there who are not "hard" (which is now the majority of men in my opinion).
Well, we either find a very rare woman from the old world, who still holds traditional values, who loves to cook for her man, yearns to be a mother and holds a lifelong marriage at the pinnacle of her belief system...
OR
We can join the hoard of single men (of all ages) who simply accept they want a casual "good looking" girlfriend and accept they will miss out on the feelings associated with a long term relationship.
I am now dating a woman from the old world with a heart of gold, but is average looking. I have come to accept that the woman I desire with a great body, gorgeous face and also all the values that we so desire simply no longer exists in today's society. I have been on enough dates to see it. It is a unicorn, and extremely rare to say the least.
Having been married to a "hot girl" who cheated on me, this leaves me in a difficult place (as a primal male). Do I enjoy the company of a wonderful woman and accept the stress associated with looking sideways at other women the rest of my life, OR continue to date hot women and get hurt (or worse still, get married and f*cked over again).
Are either options ideal? No, Not in my opinion.
But, this is the new game. Things have moved on.
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