Hi there,
I am looking for input regarding a disagreement I am having with my significant other (SO). We have very different opinions and need some mediation for a certain situation.
Over the past couple months, a guy who I have met 2 times via a good friend began to like and comment on every facebook post I made. Let me start by saying he has Asperger's and has never had a girlfriend, so he's a bit socially awkward as a result and doesn't really function on the same level as you and I went it comes to emotional issues, I'm sure. That aside, even though nothing inappropriate was said, my SO was becoming annoyed by the attention this person was paying me. I was a bit annoyed too just because it was a bit excessive however seeminly innocent, but I began to discourage the attention and deleted some of his comments, and he obviously got the message and stopped - my SO said I should contact him and tell him I was not interested, but my issue with that was that he never said anything to me about being interested, just liked my photos and made comments related to my posts. I never talked with him and we have no relationship other than mere aquaintances that share some mutual friends.
That being said, I am going on a trip overseas for an educational program in about 2 weeks with a group of friends. One of our mutual friends thought this person might enjoy going, and invited him (it's a public event). He decided to go. So now my SO is up in arms that I am going to be going on a trip oversees without him and now this person is going to be attending. He has basically said I cannot stand next to this person in any pictures and if I did I don't care about him or our relationship. To have him look at photos with me near him would be hurtful, and if a photo is taken and he gets next to me that I should move immediately away no matter the cirumstance. He says that it is a realistic request and I should respect his wishes, and said it will make or break our relationship if I do or don't comply with this. We have very different views of this and it's causing a lot of disagreement.
Your thoughts? :)
I am looking for input regarding a disagreement I am having with my significant other (SO). We have very different opinions and need some mediation for a certain situation.
Over the past couple months, a guy who I have met 2 times via a good friend began to like and comment on every facebook post I made. Let me start by saying he has Asperger's and has never had a girlfriend, so he's a bit socially awkward as a result and doesn't really function on the same level as you and I went it comes to emotional issues, I'm sure. That aside, even though nothing inappropriate was said, my SO was becoming annoyed by the attention this person was paying me. I was a bit annoyed too just because it was a bit excessive however seeminly innocent, but I began to discourage the attention and deleted some of his comments, and he obviously got the message and stopped - my SO said I should contact him and tell him I was not interested, but my issue with that was that he never said anything to me about being interested, just liked my photos and made comments related to my posts. I never talked with him and we have no relationship other than mere aquaintances that share some mutual friends.
That being said, I am going on a trip overseas for an educational program in about 2 weeks with a group of friends. One of our mutual friends thought this person might enjoy going, and invited him (it's a public event). He decided to go. So now my SO is up in arms that I am going to be going on a trip oversees without him and now this person is going to be attending. He has basically said I cannot stand next to this person in any pictures and if I did I don't care about him or our relationship. To have him look at photos with me near him would be hurtful, and if a photo is taken and he gets next to me that I should move immediately away no matter the cirumstance. He says that it is a realistic request and I should respect his wishes, and said it will make or break our relationship if I do or don't comply with this. We have very different views of this and it's causing a lot of disagreement.
Your thoughts? :)
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