How do you know whether it is you who is selfish or your spouse? I feel like I am having really hard time to determine this. For example - we were getting ready for work. He was ready already, trimming his nose hair while I just got out of shower and hurried to get my make up and hair done in order to leave in 30 minutes.
My husband asked me if I can trim his hair growing outside of his ears. I said I can't because I am running behind. He said OK and I knew he was mad. Needless to say, I felt bad afterwards. Part of me wants to say- hey, he can see at his own ears and do it for himself, but my other part feels guilty and selfish. Same thing when it comes to chores in house. I usually ask if he can empty a dishwasher for me. He, once again, left top shelf full saying he did not see it. When I asked if he can finish it -because we are trying to work as a team- he said no, that I can do it. Am I asking too much of him? I feel as if I was so selfish to want anything from him.
What do you consider selfish in your own marriage? How do you know if it is you or your partner who is selfish? This is driving me crazy. I don't want to be unfair to him anymore.
My husband asked me if I can trim his hair growing outside of his ears. I said I can't because I am running behind. He said OK and I knew he was mad. Needless to say, I felt bad afterwards. Part of me wants to say- hey, he can see at his own ears and do it for himself, but my other part feels guilty and selfish. Same thing when it comes to chores in house. I usually ask if he can empty a dishwasher for me. He, once again, left top shelf full saying he did not see it. When I asked if he can finish it -because we are trying to work as a team- he said no, that I can do it. Am I asking too much of him? I feel as if I was so selfish to want anything from him.
What do you consider selfish in your own marriage? How do you know if it is you or your partner who is selfish? This is driving me crazy. I don't want to be unfair to him anymore.
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