So about 5 yrs ago i was snipped....at the time it seemed like the right decision due to the fact i had 2 children (one step, one mine)....then a couple yrs later my wife cheated etc and now we r divorcing...anyways i am now dating and this girl and i are off to a great start. Now keep in mind its been just one month of dating so far but she has been very straight with me in terms of wat she wants for her future with kids being one of them. Now i can respect that..she doesnt have any.....I havent told her i had a vasectomy as of yet....since its only been a month of dating i didnt think it was an issue, but she has brought it up that she wants kids in her future a couple of times....not directly saying she wants them w me, but in general terms.....
my question to u guys is, when do i tell her this? I regret having the vasectomy....my step son is estranged from me and im perfectly fine with that...its a long story.....but ive always regretted having the procedure done after the fact that my marriage crumbled a couple years after.....at the time it was the right move for me, however if i had of seen the future, i would have never done it......
that being said ive always said to myself that i would have the procedure reversed if the right woman came along...idk if shes the right woman at this point since its only been a month, but i do feel like i need to say something sooner rather than later to her before the relationship gets really serious.....when and how do i tell her and am i an ass for not telling her the very first time she mentioned children in general terms??? ugh, idk wat to do, other than explaining to her that i have had the procedure done but i wouldnt be against getting it reversed if things got serious later on down the road? Help!
my question to u guys is, when do i tell her this? I regret having the vasectomy....my step son is estranged from me and im perfectly fine with that...its a long story.....but ive always regretted having the procedure done after the fact that my marriage crumbled a couple years after.....at the time it was the right move for me, however if i had of seen the future, i would have never done it......
that being said ive always said to myself that i would have the procedure reversed if the right woman came along...idk if shes the right woman at this point since its only been a month, but i do feel like i need to say something sooner rather than later to her before the relationship gets really serious.....when and how do i tell her and am i an ass for not telling her the very first time she mentioned children in general terms??? ugh, idk wat to do, other than explaining to her that i have had the procedure done but i wouldnt be against getting it reversed if things got serious later on down the road? Help!
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