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The situation I am about to reveal is not a joke, or phony in any way. It has devastated me almost to the point of insanity.
I have been married to a very kind, loving, totally honest woman for over 35 years. We have 3 children (one deceased at age 29) in their 30's. My wife has been an exceptional mother, wife, daughter, daughter in law. Our marriage has been wonderful until five months ago.
At an all class reunion I was visiting with several guys I knew but did not hang out with in school. One of the guys saw my wife
(not knowing she was my wife), and said to the other guys isn't that the girl from the east side? We lived on different parts of town and only met in high school. The others " yes I think so". They start laughing and begin to talk about how starting in the 7th grade they pick her up and all have sex and oral sex with her at the same time! They related numerous accounts, with as many as 6 to 8 guys and older guys too all at the same time! and this went on for some time. I did not inform them she was my wife. I was stunned?!? I did not know how to react.
My wife saw us and avoided all contact with them and looked concerned at me. We left soon after. I did not say anything until we were on the 10 hour drive home. She was honest with me as she could see I was very upset. She said it started at age 12 and ended at 15 when she had a steady boy friend. I asked how could this be? She said "what can I say I was into sex and loved sucking D....). I had to stop a few minutes later when I vomited.
I told I don't know how to react I feel as if I have been shot in the gut. It was silent the remainder of the trip. At home as the days went by we had some very heated arguments, which is very uncommon for us.
She said "what do you want me to do? It was 40 years ago! I'm not going to let it destroy our family" Since that time I have difficulty looking at her, we have not been intimate since. Our children know something is wrong, it has caused me problems at work as I can't think straight. I don't want to destroy my family either.
I know we can't change the past and we have had a beautiful life together. I just can't seem to move on. She will not go to counseling. I try to replace these thoughts with positive ones, I can't do it.
Has anyone ever heard of anything like this? I am open to any and all advice.
The situation I am about to reveal is not a joke, or phony in any way. It has devastated me almost to the point of insanity.
I have been married to a very kind, loving, totally honest woman for over 35 years. We have 3 children (one deceased at age 29) in their 30's. My wife has been an exceptional mother, wife, daughter, daughter in law. Our marriage has been wonderful until five months ago.
At an all class reunion I was visiting with several guys I knew but did not hang out with in school. One of the guys saw my wife
(not knowing she was my wife), and said to the other guys isn't that the girl from the east side? We lived on different parts of town and only met in high school. The others " yes I think so". They start laughing and begin to talk about how starting in the 7th grade they pick her up and all have sex and oral sex with her at the same time! They related numerous accounts, with as many as 6 to 8 guys and older guys too all at the same time! and this went on for some time. I did not inform them she was my wife. I was stunned?!? I did not know how to react.
My wife saw us and avoided all contact with them and looked concerned at me. We left soon after. I did not say anything until we were on the 10 hour drive home. She was honest with me as she could see I was very upset. She said it started at age 12 and ended at 15 when she had a steady boy friend. I asked how could this be? She said "what can I say I was into sex and loved sucking D....). I had to stop a few minutes later when I vomited.
I told I don't know how to react I feel as if I have been shot in the gut. It was silent the remainder of the trip. At home as the days went by we had some very heated arguments, which is very uncommon for us.
She said "what do you want me to do? It was 40 years ago! I'm not going to let it destroy our family" Since that time I have difficulty looking at her, we have not been intimate since. Our children know something is wrong, it has caused me problems at work as I can't think straight. I don't want to destroy my family either.
I know we can't change the past and we have had a beautiful life together. I just can't seem to move on. She will not go to counseling. I try to replace these thoughts with positive ones, I can't do it.
Has anyone ever heard of anything like this? I am open to any and all advice.
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