It's been almost a year since we started having casual sex (months after they had broken up), and recently we've been seeing each other almost every day. We've confirmed that we have feelings for each other, even though we're not officially together.
The problem is with his ex.
She thinks we've recently started having sex but knows we spend a lot of time together. She's constantly texting him telling him how much of a hard time she's having, he ends up spending hours trying to comfort her when she's crying. The fact is that SHE dumped HIM for another guy, she's been with her new bf since, and he was the one who had a hard time getting over her.
She is a good friend of mine but I've never told her what was going on, because I felt that it's an awkward topic of conversation seeing as I see her almost every day too and I wasn't sure how she will feel about it. But it was easy for her to vaguely guess what was going on. They dated for over a year before they broke up, but they still talk to each other since we all take the same classes, and to other people they seem to still be okay friends. I've always been very good friends with him, although we don't really hang around together as a group. I had never considered him as a potential fwb/bf but it just naturally happened and things developed from there. I had NO IDEA how much of an effect that had on her, because I knew she was happy with her new bf.
She's been asking him about what was going on between us, and he told her that we just have casual sex and there were no feelings involved. He doesn't want to hurt her. Even if that made her feel slightly reassured, everytime she sees us together (we don't display affection publicly at all though, no one knows) she ends up crying to him.
I don't know what to do. He doesn't know what to do.
I would like to speak to her about it but I don't think she wants to talk about it with me. She was never the kind of person who would talk to me about relationship matters, but I feel really sorry for her and I don't want to upset her. I know it was hard for her too to break up with him to be with the person she was passionate about at the time, and now it seems like her feelings for him are stronger now that she doesn't have him anymore. I do want to be with him and so does he, but I can't blame her for anything. I'm not sure if she's just jealous (people want what you can't have etc.) or she's actually in love with him.
What would you do?
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