It feels like a friend of mine is ignoring me, or trying to cut me out of her life. I have no idea why. Been trying to let it go, but I can't help but feeling really upset about it. Thought I'd ask you TSR-ians for some advice...
Well, this friend of mine, I always thought she was one of my closest friend from university, and always thought we would always be in touch. I was going through a really really tough time this time two years ago. I was fresh out of my masters, jobless for a while and was really heartbroken. And she was there.
After her masters, she ended up moving away up north with her fiancé (and now husband). We were still on great terms when she moved. Earlier this year, she was getting married. While I was upset that I was not picked for being one of the bridesmaid, I was still really happy for her and went to her wedding.
Right before she was picking her bridesmaid in January, things started to feel not quite right, but I couldn't pinpoint why. I figured she was probably busy organising her wedding, and thought I'd let her be.
It's October now, and I tried reaching out to her asking her how she is a few times, and had not had any reply. The only reply I had from her was when I was really excited about something, and just messaged to tell her about it. I know she's been in London a few times and met up with some mutual friends (who weren't as close to her), and she hadn't made any effort to get in touch.
I really don't know if it's me, or there's more to it. I know she's still very much in touch with the other close friend of mine from uni. And every else in our little group, she's basically had ignored for the past 2 years. They weren't even invited to her wedding.
Last I heard about her is that she's still looking for a job up north - she's been unemployed since she left uni 2 years ago. The first year, she was busy organising her wedding. And the second, I have no idea what she is up to.
I think what's bugging me is I don't know why she's cutting me out of her life. I tried confronting her a few months ago saying I'm worried that we're moving apart. She didn't really have a response. Just asked me why I felt the way I did.
She is really sensitive person. I'm worried that I might have said something unintentionally that has caused her to act this way. But I've been going over and over to think if that's the case, and I don't think I have.
Either that, or maybe she feels I'm judging her for her lifestyle. I'm a very career driven person. I'm worried she may think I would be looking down on her for depending on her husband even before her career had begun. I really don't. I really admire her for deciding to not to pursue her career for love.
Or maybe, I'm worried she might be depressed because of job hunting. I have been in that position a few times before, and it was the darkest times of my life. In which case, I would really like to be there for her.
I appreciate this is long, but if you've made it this far. What would you do in my position?
Thanks. :)
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