Hi everyone,
I am new to this so please bear with me!!..
I am a 33 year old woman. Married to a great guy with 2 kids. Been together since our early twenties and everything has been good.
About 6 weeks ago we were watching a TV show whilst drinking (too much) wine. One of the issues on the show was same sex relationships and we started talking about how we would react if one of our children came out as gay ( it wouldn't bother either of us BTW)
I asked my Hubby, almost as a joke if he had ever had any same sex experiences or attractions when he was younger. To my surprise he said that he had and that he had always found both genders sexually attractive. I know that I asked the question but I wasn't expecting that answer.
I freaked out a bit and kind of demanded an explanation from him. He didn't to seem to see the issue.
I his defence, I should add the following.....
He has always been totally faithful to me. I believe this 110%. He is a good guy and has always put us first.
He has never had a physical experience with another man and has no desire to cheat on me or experiment. He said that the issue would never had cropped up had I not asked the question as he is happy and loves me.
We have a good an active sex life. In fact, he is the one that initiates sex! I know that he enjoys our sex life ( a woman knows these things!) so I am not worried that he is forcing himself to be with me.
He confessed that he has seen gay porn but I also know that he has viewed a lot of straight porn ( neither of us have an issue with the other viewing porn and I have seen both straight and lesbian porn in the past)
As far as he is concerned there is no issue and he regrets every mentioning it to me. He isn't prepared to call himself bi even though I pointed out that he probably is.
Am I overreacting to this? One the one hand nothing has changed and I know he is still the same bloke that I have loved for 12 years but I can't move on from this!
I keep googling trying to find others in this situation but all I get is info suggesting that he is gay and in the closet but I really don't think this is the case.
What should I do? Am I overacting? I wish he hadn't told me this.
I am new to this so please bear with me!!..
I am a 33 year old woman. Married to a great guy with 2 kids. Been together since our early twenties and everything has been good.
About 6 weeks ago we were watching a TV show whilst drinking (too much) wine. One of the issues on the show was same sex relationships and we started talking about how we would react if one of our children came out as gay ( it wouldn't bother either of us BTW)
I asked my Hubby, almost as a joke if he had ever had any same sex experiences or attractions when he was younger. To my surprise he said that he had and that he had always found both genders sexually attractive. I know that I asked the question but I wasn't expecting that answer.
I freaked out a bit and kind of demanded an explanation from him. He didn't to seem to see the issue.
I his defence, I should add the following.....
He has always been totally faithful to me. I believe this 110%. He is a good guy and has always put us first.
He has never had a physical experience with another man and has no desire to cheat on me or experiment. He said that the issue would never had cropped up had I not asked the question as he is happy and loves me.
We have a good an active sex life. In fact, he is the one that initiates sex! I know that he enjoys our sex life ( a woman knows these things!) so I am not worried that he is forcing himself to be with me.
He confessed that he has seen gay porn but I also know that he has viewed a lot of straight porn ( neither of us have an issue with the other viewing porn and I have seen both straight and lesbian porn in the past)
As far as he is concerned there is no issue and he regrets every mentioning it to me. He isn't prepared to call himself bi even though I pointed out that he probably is.
Am I overreacting to this? One the one hand nothing has changed and I know he is still the same bloke that I have loved for 12 years but I can't move on from this!
I keep googling trying to find others in this situation but all I get is info suggesting that he is gay and in the closet but I really don't think this is the case.
What should I do? Am I overacting? I wish he hadn't told me this.
Put the internet to work for you.
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