HD husband with LD wife. Twelve years of rejection and resentment, three months of implementing the tips and tricks from Married Man's Sex Life Primer (noticed by the wife but with no change in her attitude of behaviour towards me), a weekend of talking and trying to explain how I feel, culminating in me sending her a long email explaining my need to feel an emotional and physical connection to the woman I love. She finally starts to understand, acknowledges the HD-LD issue and my feelings of neglect, and makes suggestions about what we can do. Awesome!
She suggests we meet for coffee this afternoon (less than 24 hours after our apparent break-through). I text her an hour beforehand to tell her where and when, and suggest we treat it like a lunch date and that we make a little effort. I arrive five minutes early (don't want her arriving before I do), I decide to take my work jacket off and brave the cooler weather because I don't like how it looks for a "date" lunch. By 12:05 she's not there yet so I send her a quick text.
When she finally arrives (twenty minutes late), I learn that my text WOKE HER UP! She had put such little effort into our lunch date that she had actually decided to have a late morning nap, snoozed the alarm which was supposed to wake her up in time for our lunch, and then when I woke her she realized she was wearing sweatpants and an old ill-fitting top and figured she'd better change since we're supposed to be making an effort! What the f**k?!?
Is my marriage over? I'm just so floored that she'd be so neglectful in light of everything we talked about......I don't know if this is even fixable!? I'm just so sad and dissappointed I have no idea what's left for me to do.
She suggests we meet for coffee this afternoon (less than 24 hours after our apparent break-through). I text her an hour beforehand to tell her where and when, and suggest we treat it like a lunch date and that we make a little effort. I arrive five minutes early (don't want her arriving before I do), I decide to take my work jacket off and brave the cooler weather because I don't like how it looks for a "date" lunch. By 12:05 she's not there yet so I send her a quick text.
When she finally arrives (twenty minutes late), I learn that my text WOKE HER UP! She had put such little effort into our lunch date that she had actually decided to have a late morning nap, snoozed the alarm which was supposed to wake her up in time for our lunch, and then when I woke her she realized she was wearing sweatpants and an old ill-fitting top and figured she'd better change since we're supposed to be making an effort! What the f**k?!?
Is my marriage over? I'm just so floored that she'd be so neglectful in light of everything we talked about......I don't know if this is even fixable!? I'm just so sad and dissappointed I have no idea what's left for me to do.
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