OK, so for the past year I have had a crush on a friend of mine but have never been able to tell her. She had a boyfriend, and as annoying as it was he seemed like a great guy. Then a few weeks ago she dumped him. Turns out he was a selfish, spoiled ******* that was leaching off her and it took her a while to realise that. Now, I want to finally ask her out but I am unsure of when I should.
On one hand, I do have that lingering worry that if I wait, someone will beat me to it, she is an extremely attractive girl. One the other hand, I am worried that she isn't ready to be asked out yet. The past few years have been very difficult and emotionally turbulent for her and she says that now for the past two weeks she has finally been happy and calm for the first time in ages. If I do it now, I'm afraid I'll just stress her out again.
After a lot of thinking, I think I may have a solution.
The girl is extremely close to her mother, and while I have not met her, she seems very supportive of her daughter when it comes to relationships. What if I were to email her and ask her what she thinks? (Obviously I would only ask about the girl's state of mind and not go into how long I've liked her for or my fear of being beaten to the punch.)
My question is - would that be weird? Would it seem like I'm disrespecting her, or that I'm too eager, or that I'm a creep stuck in the 19th century? Or is it actually a good idea?
Any words of wisdom would be greatly appreciated.
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