Hi everyone,
Let me preface this by saying that I know my reactions to situations that are not a big deal can be inflated. I've known that for a while and I'm working on it.
My wife and I have had some serious issues in our marriage that have landed us in a councilors office. We would fight all the time, and neither of us were happy but we stayed because we have a little boy together. Lately, things have been much better. She says she's happy, and I'm much happier and can see myself spending the rest of my life with her.
Admittedly, I didn't try as hard as before in my marriage. I work and school full time, plus the baby. Its exhausting, and I assumed my wife would understand I just have a lot on my plate. Turns out that wasn't the case...
She recently got a really masty cold that took her off her feet for a day. She had to have some shifts covered at work, and they were picked up Even guy who is in his late 40 s. (Maybe 49 I think) we are both 24. I was fine with that and grateful the guy worked so my wife could rest.
Tuesdays I have school, so I'm really not home from 7am til 10 pm or later. My wife told me at about 930 last Tuesday that thus guy who covered her shifts brought her soup and they talked for an hour or so. I found out later that they also went to the park and hung out for probably another hour with our toddler while I was at school. We talked about it a lot, and she wound up telling me that they had a conversation that went something like...
"So does your husband get jealous?"
"Yeah. "
"Well you don't have to worry about anything. I won't make a move. I know you're married"
That, to me, was extremely unsettling. It should probably have made me feel better, but it didn't. I trust that my wife won't make a move, either, because she values what we have. I asked her to not hang out with this guy alone anymore, and to make sure myself or another person is there. She agreed, and texted him letting him know.
They don't text a lot, but maybe once a week or so they will talk for a bit over text. He sent her one that says "yeah, its slow season. At least you looked cute today" and she responded sarcastically "yeah. Because work clothes are so freaking hot. " to which he said "haha don't I know it?"
I feel like they scratch the surface of inappropriate but never go all the way in. That's the worst text I've seen from this guy, and I know its not too bad. I just don't want to lose my wife and I don't want her to cheat.
I want her to have friends, I just wish they were married or female. Her hanging around texting this single guy bothers me, Eben though he's almost twice our age.
I know she talks with him about our relationship problems. She felt like I didn't take good care of her while she was sick, and that I was annoyed with her for me having to bring her food and stuff (which wasn't the case. I was just tired) they talked about this. I have started trying much harder in my marriage, writing her love notes and bringing her surprises and such. That's just been this last week, though.
Should I be worried? Or am I overreacting. I feel like I might be overreacting because she has every right to have male friends, and I think I might just be looking for issues where there aren't any. What are your thoughts?
Thank you in advance.
Let me preface this by saying that I know my reactions to situations that are not a big deal can be inflated. I've known that for a while and I'm working on it.
My wife and I have had some serious issues in our marriage that have landed us in a councilors office. We would fight all the time, and neither of us were happy but we stayed because we have a little boy together. Lately, things have been much better. She says she's happy, and I'm much happier and can see myself spending the rest of my life with her.
Admittedly, I didn't try as hard as before in my marriage. I work and school full time, plus the baby. Its exhausting, and I assumed my wife would understand I just have a lot on my plate. Turns out that wasn't the case...
She recently got a really masty cold that took her off her feet for a day. She had to have some shifts covered at work, and they were picked up Even guy who is in his late 40 s. (Maybe 49 I think) we are both 24. I was fine with that and grateful the guy worked so my wife could rest.
Tuesdays I have school, so I'm really not home from 7am til 10 pm or later. My wife told me at about 930 last Tuesday that thus guy who covered her shifts brought her soup and they talked for an hour or so. I found out later that they also went to the park and hung out for probably another hour with our toddler while I was at school. We talked about it a lot, and she wound up telling me that they had a conversation that went something like...
"So does your husband get jealous?"
"Yeah. "
"Well you don't have to worry about anything. I won't make a move. I know you're married"
That, to me, was extremely unsettling. It should probably have made me feel better, but it didn't. I trust that my wife won't make a move, either, because she values what we have. I asked her to not hang out with this guy alone anymore, and to make sure myself or another person is there. She agreed, and texted him letting him know.
They don't text a lot, but maybe once a week or so they will talk for a bit over text. He sent her one that says "yeah, its slow season. At least you looked cute today" and she responded sarcastically "yeah. Because work clothes are so freaking hot. " to which he said "haha don't I know it?"
I feel like they scratch the surface of inappropriate but never go all the way in. That's the worst text I've seen from this guy, and I know its not too bad. I just don't want to lose my wife and I don't want her to cheat.
I want her to have friends, I just wish they were married or female. Her hanging around texting this single guy bothers me, Eben though he's almost twice our age.
I know she talks with him about our relationship problems. She felt like I didn't take good care of her while she was sick, and that I was annoyed with her for me having to bring her food and stuff (which wasn't the case. I was just tired) they talked about this. I have started trying much harder in my marriage, writing her love notes and bringing her surprises and such. That's just been this last week, though.
Should I be worried? Or am I overreacting. I feel like I might be overreacting because she has every right to have male friends, and I think I might just be looking for issues where there aren't any. What are your thoughts?
Thank you in advance.
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