Hi All. So I had a really bad night last night and I have been thinking about it the whole day. Now that my son is finally asleep, (THANK GOD), I kind of want to vent/seek advice or ideas from you fine folks. It might get kind of long, but I will try to keep it shorter. I am a talker.
Back story so you don't have to go read other threads: Husband and I married just over one year now, dated one year before that, I am 30, he is 27, and we have an almost 3 month old son. We have a good relationship, great sex which is starting to get back on track after baby, and no tough problems that I was aware of. We do live overseas which is hard, but we are positive people and see that it is only temporary.
The problem: Some nights when my hubby gets off work, we go to a local park and drink tea, chat, watch the baby, etc. It's one of the things I have enjoyed the most about my time off of work this summer. We usually spend a couple of hours and then come home. Well last night my husband called before coming home and asked if I would like to go out to the park. Of course, I was excited.
We got to the park, chatted a little, but my husband was weird. He was super quiet in comparison to normal, not really giving any details about anything, and honestly I could tell he wasn't interested in talking. Then he asks me, "Honey, have you ever had to discipline yourself not to do something?" I said, "No, I don't have any major bad habits except like biting my nails."
He stopped talking after my response even when I questioned him a little more about why he asked. When we got home, I was taking care of our son and he started crying. Not a normal cry, like really crying hard. He hugged me, and seriously he squeezed me so tight at one point I couldn't breathe. I asked him what was wrong, why was he so upset.
He wouldn't tell me anything. After he calmed down, he went straight to bed and slept. I am SO WORRIED. I have thought about it all day and I just can't figure out what is bothering him so much. Does he have a bad habit? Why isn't he telling me? Do spouses often keep things from one another that is so emotionally hard on them? Maybe because I am a talker and I can't keep my mouth shut if I feel bad I just can't relate. Should I ask him tonight when he gets home what is the deal? Or should I wait for him to tell me? I don't think I can wait. What if he won't tell me? UGH. I am about to go nuts!
Back story so you don't have to go read other threads: Husband and I married just over one year now, dated one year before that, I am 30, he is 27, and we have an almost 3 month old son. We have a good relationship, great sex which is starting to get back on track after baby, and no tough problems that I was aware of. We do live overseas which is hard, but we are positive people and see that it is only temporary.
The problem: Some nights when my hubby gets off work, we go to a local park and drink tea, chat, watch the baby, etc. It's one of the things I have enjoyed the most about my time off of work this summer. We usually spend a couple of hours and then come home. Well last night my husband called before coming home and asked if I would like to go out to the park. Of course, I was excited.
We got to the park, chatted a little, but my husband was weird. He was super quiet in comparison to normal, not really giving any details about anything, and honestly I could tell he wasn't interested in talking. Then he asks me, "Honey, have you ever had to discipline yourself not to do something?" I said, "No, I don't have any major bad habits except like biting my nails."
He stopped talking after my response even when I questioned him a little more about why he asked. When we got home, I was taking care of our son and he started crying. Not a normal cry, like really crying hard. He hugged me, and seriously he squeezed me so tight at one point I couldn't breathe. I asked him what was wrong, why was he so upset.
He wouldn't tell me anything. After he calmed down, he went straight to bed and slept. I am SO WORRIED. I have thought about it all day and I just can't figure out what is bothering him so much. Does he have a bad habit? Why isn't he telling me? Do spouses often keep things from one another that is so emotionally hard on them? Maybe because I am a talker and I can't keep my mouth shut if I feel bad I just can't relate. Should I ask him tonight when he gets home what is the deal? Or should I wait for him to tell me? I don't think I can wait. What if he won't tell me? UGH. I am about to go nuts!
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