Hi everyone,
I´m with my girlfriend for 2 years now. I am 26, she is 21. At first some facts about her.
She seems like a good girl. Always telling me how much she loves me, always giving me attention. She is from africa, a culture where the people are more open minded and flirtatious, i guess. In her past she used to hang around with old men who did things for her. When they wanted to get physical, she broke the "relationships" with them. But that was in the past... We often argued about her being flirtatious with her "male friends" from her country through chatting. She told me, its just the way some people are.. I think she likes the attention from men but wouldn´t go as far as cheating. We argued about this a lot and even a few weeks before the following incident happened we fought about it...
After one year of our relationship I asked her what she is doing on the weekend. She told, she is going to another town. I asked what for and she told just to take a walk. After I asked with whom she told with a male friend, who is like family to her..
I get suspicious and asked her to tell me everything about it and she told me: Her friend, who is living here too and is also from her country, asked her to meet her cousin, because her friend is living too far away to meet him. This cousin was new in our country and knows nobody, he was living in a town near the town we both living at. Her friend just wanted her to keep company with him. But she warned my girlfriend that he is a bad boy and she should be careful. So my girlfriend started chatting with him. Even if u can see each other on this chatting app, they exchanged pics. She sent him one new pic of her face and one where u can see her in whole. She told me she just wanted to see who she is talking with. Hmmm!? This guy got flirtatious with her, made compliments. He was also rich and was bragging about his money, told her that he could buy her drinks and even buy her a ticket to her home country if she want to go with him on vacation there.. Hmm!? I never saw the chat but she told me, that she said no to this. He wanted to come to her place (our town) but she refused and told him, she will come to his place... Even though it was clear that he doesnt just take a walk in the town but wanted to cook for her and go to a club, she told me that she would never do that and that she only wanted to walk around in the town and maybe drink a coffee with him. She even canceled two days before she told me about and said, that she didn´t want to go at all. She just told him she will come, but didn´t want to. So why you wanna go now, i asked? She said that he was asking and asking and she didn´t want to cancel a third time..
I got very suspicious and asked her many many questions, which she had an answer for all of them and it sounds so true...
Why you didn´t invite me? - Because u refused to go with me to my female friends in the past and i thought you don´t want to go again (which is true).
Why you didn´t invite him to our town? - Because he would insist to come to my place and I just wanted to hang around in the town, so I wanted to go to his town and didn´t want to go to his home.
Did u know that he was just after sex and was impressing u with his money? - I knew that but all men are like that and I didn´t care about it.
Why didn´t u stop talking to him after u knew he just was after sex? - Because I wanted to do a favor to my friend. (This may be true, because she has problems to say no to people and wants to be friendly with everyone. She did things to her friends even if she didn´t want to, because she was afraid of their reactions in the past)
Why u didn´t told me about him when u was chatting with him? - Because it wasn´t important..
So I talked to her friend and it´s true that she asked her. But I just can´t believe it all was so harmles. My GF told me she didn´t find him attractive and he was disturbing and she really didn´t want to meet him but she just wanted to do this favor to her friend and that´s why she was nice to him. She even told him about me and always was telling him what we were doing and stuff (this is true). She even sent him pics of us together... And she saw him like a kind of part of her family.. Like a kind of family friend... HMM!?
But I still can´t believe this story and that it was all like this. She also lies very often and also lied to me many times during our relationship.. If it´s true maybe thats why I can´t believe this... She also is telling me "of course i could have say no to my friend about this favor, but I wanted to do it!"
What do u guys think about this? Maybe a lie detector will help me know the truth?? Considering her past, it is really hard to believe that...
Waiting for answers!
Regards.
I´m with my girlfriend for 2 years now. I am 26, she is 21. At first some facts about her.
She seems like a good girl. Always telling me how much she loves me, always giving me attention. She is from africa, a culture where the people are more open minded and flirtatious, i guess. In her past she used to hang around with old men who did things for her. When they wanted to get physical, she broke the "relationships" with them. But that was in the past... We often argued about her being flirtatious with her "male friends" from her country through chatting. She told me, its just the way some people are.. I think she likes the attention from men but wouldn´t go as far as cheating. We argued about this a lot and even a few weeks before the following incident happened we fought about it...
After one year of our relationship I asked her what she is doing on the weekend. She told, she is going to another town. I asked what for and she told just to take a walk. After I asked with whom she told with a male friend, who is like family to her..
I get suspicious and asked her to tell me everything about it and she told me: Her friend, who is living here too and is also from her country, asked her to meet her cousin, because her friend is living too far away to meet him. This cousin was new in our country and knows nobody, he was living in a town near the town we both living at. Her friend just wanted her to keep company with him. But she warned my girlfriend that he is a bad boy and she should be careful. So my girlfriend started chatting with him. Even if u can see each other on this chatting app, they exchanged pics. She sent him one new pic of her face and one where u can see her in whole. She told me she just wanted to see who she is talking with. Hmmm!? This guy got flirtatious with her, made compliments. He was also rich and was bragging about his money, told her that he could buy her drinks and even buy her a ticket to her home country if she want to go with him on vacation there.. Hmm!? I never saw the chat but she told me, that she said no to this. He wanted to come to her place (our town) but she refused and told him, she will come to his place... Even though it was clear that he doesnt just take a walk in the town but wanted to cook for her and go to a club, she told me that she would never do that and that she only wanted to walk around in the town and maybe drink a coffee with him. She even canceled two days before she told me about and said, that she didn´t want to go at all. She just told him she will come, but didn´t want to. So why you wanna go now, i asked? She said that he was asking and asking and she didn´t want to cancel a third time..
I got very suspicious and asked her many many questions, which she had an answer for all of them and it sounds so true...
Why you didn´t invite me? - Because u refused to go with me to my female friends in the past and i thought you don´t want to go again (which is true).
Why you didn´t invite him to our town? - Because he would insist to come to my place and I just wanted to hang around in the town, so I wanted to go to his town and didn´t want to go to his home.
Did u know that he was just after sex and was impressing u with his money? - I knew that but all men are like that and I didn´t care about it.
Why didn´t u stop talking to him after u knew he just was after sex? - Because I wanted to do a favor to my friend. (This may be true, because she has problems to say no to people and wants to be friendly with everyone. She did things to her friends even if she didn´t want to, because she was afraid of their reactions in the past)
Why u didn´t told me about him when u was chatting with him? - Because it wasn´t important..
So I talked to her friend and it´s true that she asked her. But I just can´t believe it all was so harmles. My GF told me she didn´t find him attractive and he was disturbing and she really didn´t want to meet him but she just wanted to do this favor to her friend and that´s why she was nice to him. She even told him about me and always was telling him what we were doing and stuff (this is true). She even sent him pics of us together... And she saw him like a kind of part of her family.. Like a kind of family friend... HMM!?
But I still can´t believe this story and that it was all like this. She also lies very often and also lied to me many times during our relationship.. If it´s true maybe thats why I can´t believe this... She also is telling me "of course i could have say no to my friend about this favor, but I wanted to do it!"
What do u guys think about this? Maybe a lie detector will help me know the truth?? Considering her past, it is really hard to believe that...
Waiting for answers!
Regards.
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