Having been a committed and enthusiastic masturbator for more than half of my life I have decided to go 'hands-free' for a month.
This is not because of some superstition masquerading as religious morality, nor because I believe that there are negative physical effects caused by moderate masturbation, but just because I want to alter my sexual experience for the next month or so and see where it takes me (us).
Some background: I am in my early forties, married and I have three children, one of whom is less than a year old. Our sex life is good, varied and has taken on a great psychological aspect over the last couple of years. Having said that I do tend to suffer from retarded ejaculation at times, hence the ID, so I will be interested to see if this new regime has any effect. It hasn't yet.
I have gone one week so far and the effects are already starting to show. Last night's sex had to be aborted pre-ejaculation due to a waking baby, so the temptation to deal with myself today is the hardest it has been so far. Writing this post is partly an effort to stop myself from caving in and hitting the Internet porn.
The last couple of days I have noticed that I am feeling more aggressive and I am noticing attractive women in the street more than usual. I am thinking about sex more, talking about it more and reading about it more.
As for the aggression this has mostly manifested itself in road-rage and a general 'come and f*?cking try it' feeling that I haven't felt for many years. I feel, though this is just speculation, that my testosterone levels are up. My wife agrees. Just to be clear I am not acting on my aggression, but it is harder not to jump out of the car and head butt the boy racer in a stupid, pimped-out Fiat Punto that just cut me up.
Sexually I feel more dominant, whereas I usually like to switch between dominant and submissive I find myself preferring dominant play and dominant positions. Whereas I would normally be focussed on my wife's pleasure I am focussing on my own, which paradoxically (or not) seems to have increased my wife's enjoyment.
I will continue to update this thread and welcome any comments and posts of others' experiences of this experiment.
This is not because of some superstition masquerading as religious morality, nor because I believe that there are negative physical effects caused by moderate masturbation, but just because I want to alter my sexual experience for the next month or so and see where it takes me (us).
Some background: I am in my early forties, married and I have three children, one of whom is less than a year old. Our sex life is good, varied and has taken on a great psychological aspect over the last couple of years. Having said that I do tend to suffer from retarded ejaculation at times, hence the ID, so I will be interested to see if this new regime has any effect. It hasn't yet.
I have gone one week so far and the effects are already starting to show. Last night's sex had to be aborted pre-ejaculation due to a waking baby, so the temptation to deal with myself today is the hardest it has been so far. Writing this post is partly an effort to stop myself from caving in and hitting the Internet porn.
The last couple of days I have noticed that I am feeling more aggressive and I am noticing attractive women in the street more than usual. I am thinking about sex more, talking about it more and reading about it more.
As for the aggression this has mostly manifested itself in road-rage and a general 'come and f*?cking try it' feeling that I haven't felt for many years. I feel, though this is just speculation, that my testosterone levels are up. My wife agrees. Just to be clear I am not acting on my aggression, but it is harder not to jump out of the car and head butt the boy racer in a stupid, pimped-out Fiat Punto that just cut me up.
Sexually I feel more dominant, whereas I usually like to switch between dominant and submissive I find myself preferring dominant play and dominant positions. Whereas I would normally be focussed on my wife's pleasure I am focussing on my own, which paradoxically (or not) seems to have increased my wife's enjoyment.
I will continue to update this thread and welcome any comments and posts of others' experiences of this experiment.
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