My wife and I have been married for just 6 months. When we got married both of us were working full time, however before marriage in our pre-martial counseling we made the decision that since we are incredibly blessed that my salary can take care of us if she would like to stop working and stay home I would support her in that. After 1 month of marriage my wife approached me and informed me that she would like to begin staying home. So I said great, she put her notice in at work and she began staying home. Her reasons for staying home were it would giver her more time to pursue her interests in photography, arts, and music as well to spend more time with our two cattle dogs, and to be completely honest with you I was completely fine with that. The only thing I asked for in return was that there was some effort to take care of the house so I would not have to come home and clean the house, make dinner, ect.
Everything was good and well for about a month. Then things began to slide. Walking in to gourmet dinners prepared from scratch turned into walking into frozen TV dinners. Walking into a clean house turned into walking into the a house that hasn't been picked up in days. It has even gotten to the point where my wife doesn't even "get ready" and remains in sweat pants all day, and to top it off she has begun to complain to me about how much I work. I work roughly 50 hours a week and occasionally travel 5 days a month for work. To top it all off when I do come home and begin to clean things or make a proper dinner (is it rude of me to not want to eat microwaved garbage?) I get criticized and she says "all your doing is making me feel guilty for what I don't do"
I would like some advice on how to communicate these feelings to her since I do not want to become bitter towards her for her actions and I do not want to communicate in an unloving way.
To be honest, we are 25 and 26 years old, and haven't been married long so any good advice would be greatly appreciated.
Everything was good and well for about a month. Then things began to slide. Walking in to gourmet dinners prepared from scratch turned into walking into frozen TV dinners. Walking into a clean house turned into walking into the a house that hasn't been picked up in days. It has even gotten to the point where my wife doesn't even "get ready" and remains in sweat pants all day, and to top it off she has begun to complain to me about how much I work. I work roughly 50 hours a week and occasionally travel 5 days a month for work. To top it all off when I do come home and begin to clean things or make a proper dinner (is it rude of me to not want to eat microwaved garbage?) I get criticized and she says "all your doing is making me feel guilty for what I don't do"
I would like some advice on how to communicate these feelings to her since I do not want to become bitter towards her for her actions and I do not want to communicate in an unloving way.
To be honest, we are 25 and 26 years old, and haven't been married long so any good advice would be greatly appreciated.
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