I've been lurking for a long time to gain perspective on a relationship my H had with a co-worker. She was from out of town and they did not see each other often, but it was clear that each of them was quite taken with the other. She was fired after only working there about a year, and the relationship actually grew once she was fired. She was distraught and looked to my H for emotional support. This went on for over 2 1/2 years and ended when I found an email they had exchanged. It was obvious that it was not a typical business relationship and I called him out on it.
I have very little of the correspondence they exchanged, but H admitted that he had an attraction to her that was beyond what it should be. He said that he was only with her in the office and that they met once for dinner after she was fired. He admitted to hugging her.
I also discovered a second relationship with a woman my H met at a conference. Again, there was very little I had to go on, only a brief exchange between them but eventually came to understand that my H and this second OW texted for about a 6 month time period, stopped for about 5 months, then started up again for another 6 months.
My point is this. My H has minimize his involvement with these women, ultimately I think to spare me and himself any more pain. I believe he's truly remorseful and has put them completely behind him. We went through 6 months of MC and H realizes why he conducted himself the way he did. However, the things I know about their relationships are only because I continued to prod him for details and drew conclusions from simple remarks he made. We have been in a good R for almost 2 years.
When I see the comments on here about a kiss meaning sex, I wonder what a "hug" would mean?
I have very little of the correspondence they exchanged, but H admitted that he had an attraction to her that was beyond what it should be. He said that he was only with her in the office and that they met once for dinner after she was fired. He admitted to hugging her.
I also discovered a second relationship with a woman my H met at a conference. Again, there was very little I had to go on, only a brief exchange between them but eventually came to understand that my H and this second OW texted for about a 6 month time period, stopped for about 5 months, then started up again for another 6 months.
My point is this. My H has minimize his involvement with these women, ultimately I think to spare me and himself any more pain. I believe he's truly remorseful and has put them completely behind him. We went through 6 months of MC and H realizes why he conducted himself the way he did. However, the things I know about their relationships are only because I continued to prod him for details and drew conclusions from simple remarks he made. We have been in a good R for almost 2 years.
When I see the comments on here about a kiss meaning sex, I wonder what a "hug" would mean?
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