I have been with my husband for 3 years now we are both 23 an met in high school. We have a on year old baby that I stay at home with and he works to pay rent. If my husband ask me for example " do you know where are the keys" an I say " there not over there?" He will get pissed off and say "why can't you ****ing answer the damn question I asked if u know where the it's a yes or no answer you never directly answer my ****ing questions" or if I ask him to do something like yak out th trash and it been three hours since I asked an he has not done it and I ask again he will get pissed off and "say yes Cathy I will take out the ****ing trash why are you nagging and *****ing at me this is why I don't wan to come home after work an go fishing because your so negative" during our fights he has called me a stupid *****, ugly, *******, so it who're on and on... this has been napping for three years but has gradually gotton worse. I have no idea how to han dle him because he is not always like this he can be sweet bring me flowers make dinner buy me wine ..etc. he get mad over the smallest things and goes off on me and I have No Idea how to deal with this. When we argue which is usually over something stupid he is downright mean yelling and cussing he has even thrown my phone flipped over our matress he has never laid a hand on me not that that makes it okay. I used to cry but I feel as though I have become used to it and now I sometimes laugh at his outburst because they seem so dramatic and insured. I have threatened to leave several times it does nothing to help. He smokes marijuana at least once a day and he does suffer from ADHD but refuses to get therapy for it or medication. His brother who is a year younger has similar issues in his relationships and acts the same towards his girlfriend but he drinks everyday so I'm not sure but I think it is a learned behavior from family and issues with family. Please help any ad vice will help I don't want to leave him I do love him although our communication is at 0 anything I have to say about him that's negative he gets really defensive about.I don't want to even have sex with him because that would make me vulnerable again and if he went off on me it would hurt worse.
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