I get a lot of attention and eye contact from females in public (on street, tube etc). But I don't know what to do about it. I've never had a date and I am a virgin - I am 22 now going on 23 soon and I want to make a change. The problem is that:
- Despite seemingly getting a lot of attention I have very little self confidence. My face is decent but I am small and don't have a manly body. This is the stuff that they don't see.
- I get really anxious about approaching women with intention to charm/date. The thought that I could come off as a charming man who is sexually desirable seems ridiculous. I get afraid they they might not find me charming or interesting enough if I go over to say hi. I don't like to use bull**** PUA techniques, and I am too nice a guy. However I don't expect girls to like me just because I am nice (in fact I am quite the opposite).
- I've tried online dating but always give up after a few days. I have never had success on them and I probably always get filtered out with the height filter.
- I have been successful in getting girls into liking me before but this is unintentional and took quite a few months (housmates, course mates etc). I don't know how to transpose this into short term dating where I don't have as much exposure to them.
- I don't know where to meet women. Clubs and bars are not my thing and I find them too loud to be able to hold a decent conversation. My hearing is terrible enough as it is.
Help.
Until now I haven't been that bothered about dating, and always felt that the right one will come along when the time is right, but this seems more and more like BS the more I grow older. I don't want to grow old and look back and have regrets because I've been too much of a coward to take control.
Put the internet to work for you.
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