So my boyfriend and I have been together for almost 6 months now. Everything is going good and we love and care for each other. However we have not had sex yet. I've been putting it off because I'm afraid of having sex. I was sexually abused as a child (he doesn't know this) and even though I've been seeing a therapist for a year or so I still don't feel very comfortable with having actual sex. I don't mind doing stuff to him but I'm scared of him doing stuff to me and of having sex. My boyfriend has been really lovely all this time and even though he does get frustrated he has respected my wishes and has not pursued anything that I am not comfortable doing. I do know this is all very unfair on him but I just feel like I can overcome my fears.
Getting to the point of this post; yesterday we had a fight about the no sex thing. I'm afraid that if this continues he may start to resent me and hate me. I want to tell him why I'm afraid of having sex but I'm afraid that he may think I'm just making up excuses. I'm also afraid that by telling him I might put him in an awkward and unfair situation. Would it be selfish of me to tell him about this? I want to tell him because I don't want to lose him and also because maybe we can then work on this together. I don't know what I should do? Should I tell him or not?
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