Day 2 of our vacation I knew something was up with my wife, for the previous 2 weeks she had been acting weird, hiding her phone and other things.
I decided to pull her up about it, to which she told me she had kissed a man in work on a night out. I was in shock, my previous marriage ended the same, now we've only been married a few months now this.
I asked her why, her response was she got her life back. I've been working a lot and probably neglected her for some months looking back. The other guy is in an unhappy marriage and has a child, he's 10 years older and isn't good looking (thank God). I told her we can work through it, her response was I was free to go home if i wanted too.
I was heartbroken, didn't want to leave her but I couldn't face the fact she wouldn't let me hold or touch her. She wanted me to stay but just no touching, I couldn't bare it and decided to leave, I booked the flights, then 75 minutes later she comes into the room crying asking me not to leave - it was an amazing feeling - does she still love me? Love me just enough not to see me leave, or didn't she just want to be alone.
She cried and told me we can work on it and get through it, we had a brilliant 3-4 days together with the best sex ever. Then the last 2 days of the vacation, she went weird again, almost like a robot...not the person I married. She wouldn't let me touch her and basically treated me like ****.
Next thing she said when we get back she thinks we should have a break to which I agreed, even though it ripped my heart out. She now stays at her mothers but I know she's constantly texting this guy from work (even on vacation), to the point it's almost 24hr chat with him.
My head is a in a mess, on the way back on the plane she still talked about the future, like "Remember to buy x a present before we go to their wedding".
I'm in no mans land at the moment. I took advice on the internet and done the following
* No contact rule, I never text her even though it's killing me inside, she did text me though to say the house was lovely when she came around and thanked my for ironing her clothes. I simply replied "oh that's ok, I've got more time now anyway" and left it at that - no response.
* I've joined the gym and started to get fit, buying more fruit, cut sugar out of my diet and generally trying to make myself as attractive as possible.
* I joined dating sites - god knows why, maybe it's because my confidence is shot and I need reassurance?
What should I do next, I know she will text me in a couple of days as shes coming back to the house and I'm moving out. Should I text her? How should I respond to texts? Does she still love me?
I get the feeling I'm Plan B, I think shes going to have sex with this guy and if it's all roses she will permantantly want to end the marriage. I'm at whits end, there's nothing I can do about it, and I know if we do manage to get back together she will have already had sex with this man.
Please help :(
I decided to pull her up about it, to which she told me she had kissed a man in work on a night out. I was in shock, my previous marriage ended the same, now we've only been married a few months now this.
I asked her why, her response was she got her life back. I've been working a lot and probably neglected her for some months looking back. The other guy is in an unhappy marriage and has a child, he's 10 years older and isn't good looking (thank God). I told her we can work through it, her response was I was free to go home if i wanted too.
I was heartbroken, didn't want to leave her but I couldn't face the fact she wouldn't let me hold or touch her. She wanted me to stay but just no touching, I couldn't bare it and decided to leave, I booked the flights, then 75 minutes later she comes into the room crying asking me not to leave - it was an amazing feeling - does she still love me? Love me just enough not to see me leave, or didn't she just want to be alone.
She cried and told me we can work on it and get through it, we had a brilliant 3-4 days together with the best sex ever. Then the last 2 days of the vacation, she went weird again, almost like a robot...not the person I married. She wouldn't let me touch her and basically treated me like ****.
Next thing she said when we get back she thinks we should have a break to which I agreed, even though it ripped my heart out. She now stays at her mothers but I know she's constantly texting this guy from work (even on vacation), to the point it's almost 24hr chat with him.
My head is a in a mess, on the way back on the plane she still talked about the future, like "Remember to buy x a present before we go to their wedding".
I'm in no mans land at the moment. I took advice on the internet and done the following
* No contact rule, I never text her even though it's killing me inside, she did text me though to say the house was lovely when she came around and thanked my for ironing her clothes. I simply replied "oh that's ok, I've got more time now anyway" and left it at that - no response.
* I've joined the gym and started to get fit, buying more fruit, cut sugar out of my diet and generally trying to make myself as attractive as possible.
* I joined dating sites - god knows why, maybe it's because my confidence is shot and I need reassurance?
What should I do next, I know she will text me in a couple of days as shes coming back to the house and I'm moving out. Should I text her? How should I respond to texts? Does she still love me?
I get the feeling I'm Plan B, I think shes going to have sex with this guy and if it's all roses she will permantantly want to end the marriage. I'm at whits end, there's nothing I can do about it, and I know if we do manage to get back together she will have already had sex with this man.
Please help :(
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