I know this is pretty vague and don't really believe in star crossed lovers, but I know most people reach a point where they feel very comfortable and happy with one person. For some people it is all about the numbers (how many people they have slept with etc...)
I am a girl and have only had 2 real boyfriends (currently with the second). The first was long term (5 years) but I broke it off as we had both developped into two very different people and weren't compatible anymore. I have only slept with them though was touched by my first short term school boyfriend.
My current boyfriend has slept with two others girls before me and had touching experiences with a few others. He said that he had commitment issues with both and never attached a label to either as a relationship, but that with me somehow it works (even if every so often he gets "the fear"). We are in general very happy together and going traveling together this summer.
What I cannot understand is how some people can casually jump from one relationship to another. I love my current boyfriend but feel a sort of sadness thinking that with every human relationship we go through the same phases. It sort of reminds me of the scene in Madame Bovary where she finds the bouquet of her new husband's ex lover and throws it in the fire. I feel so tired about going through these same motions again and cannot imagine doing it again. We are compatible, I want to just escape the honeymoon and anxiety periods and have something fulfilling but stable.
What I mean to say is, concentrating on one person for me is more special as it feels more authentic and unique. How do others feel knowing that sex moves/romantic gestures we make towards our partner and vice versa have already been tried and tested on someone else?
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