the background and lot of info about this issue is in the following thread
http://ift.tt/1nfsgKa
so, on may 23rd my husband told me the complete reason for saying he loves me less.i have been thinking about it and today i feel i am ready to share..
on the last week of April, when i was at work my husband called me and told me his mother said she is coming to stay with us for a month and that he said yes. i said "oh why did you said yes without discussing with me" he said it's just a month so he said yes. so i said "how can i study " i have the most important exam of my career coming up and my husband has told me that his mother watches TV all day.and i cant study when im hearing sounds.so he said (in a louder than usual voice) ok ok i ll tell her not to come now.
after about 2 hours i got a text from his mother. let's call her E.
It said "im not coming to xxxxxxx with you people coz i now know who you are" (it was a trip we planned to some place) so i called her to explain. without letting me speak she yells "you told me not to come,im not coming there ever, you are not my DIL im not your MIL don't ever come to my house, is exam more important than family" and other stuff for 45 minutes. so i try to explain and when i couldn't i just cut the line.
after a few days she wanted my husband to go with her to see a doc. doc told them her cholesterol level is twice the normal limit and she has a thinned artery. so my husband said shall we take her in ? i said ok after the exam.he didn't sound happy but he said ok. then i noticed that he didn't talk much, didn't laugh, didn't look at me etc. that's when i asked why are you being like this and he said i love you less after every fight. for weeks he only said that. then i pushed saying 'we didn't even fight recently so why are you doing this" THEN he said because of the recent "problem of mother" all the past fights came in to surface and he feels he loves me less ( because i said wait two months to take in his mother till my exam is over )
i am completely shocked. i was thinking about this last few days... she blamed me saying so many bad things but he didn't tell her anything about it but when i said wait two months till the exam is over he loves me less for that?:scratchhead:
i think her blaming me was completely out of line. any rational person would have said "ok you finish the exam i can visit later" but she created a big drama... i have been very hurt by it because i called her "mother" for the last 7 years and treated her as such... it showed me she does not give importance to my exams/job she just wants me to say yes to what she wants,when she wants.and i am sure if it was her son who said "i have an exam come later" she would not have said "you are not my son don't come here" etc
despite all that i said ok when my husband asked shall we take her in. i just said wait till exam is over. and for that he behaves like this.
i guess i just wanted to vent. and to get your input about what you think about this situation.
thank you..
http://ift.tt/1nfsgKa
so, on may 23rd my husband told me the complete reason for saying he loves me less.i have been thinking about it and today i feel i am ready to share..
on the last week of April, when i was at work my husband called me and told me his mother said she is coming to stay with us for a month and that he said yes. i said "oh why did you said yes without discussing with me" he said it's just a month so he said yes. so i said "how can i study " i have the most important exam of my career coming up and my husband has told me that his mother watches TV all day.and i cant study when im hearing sounds.so he said (in a louder than usual voice) ok ok i ll tell her not to come now.
after about 2 hours i got a text from his mother. let's call her E.
It said "im not coming to xxxxxxx with you people coz i now know who you are" (it was a trip we planned to some place) so i called her to explain. without letting me speak she yells "you told me not to come,im not coming there ever, you are not my DIL im not your MIL don't ever come to my house, is exam more important than family" and other stuff for 45 minutes. so i try to explain and when i couldn't i just cut the line.
after a few days she wanted my husband to go with her to see a doc. doc told them her cholesterol level is twice the normal limit and she has a thinned artery. so my husband said shall we take her in ? i said ok after the exam.he didn't sound happy but he said ok. then i noticed that he didn't talk much, didn't laugh, didn't look at me etc. that's when i asked why are you being like this and he said i love you less after every fight. for weeks he only said that. then i pushed saying 'we didn't even fight recently so why are you doing this" THEN he said because of the recent "problem of mother" all the past fights came in to surface and he feels he loves me less ( because i said wait two months to take in his mother till my exam is over )
i am completely shocked. i was thinking about this last few days... she blamed me saying so many bad things but he didn't tell her anything about it but when i said wait two months till the exam is over he loves me less for that?:scratchhead:
i think her blaming me was completely out of line. any rational person would have said "ok you finish the exam i can visit later" but she created a big drama... i have been very hurt by it because i called her "mother" for the last 7 years and treated her as such... it showed me she does not give importance to my exams/job she just wants me to say yes to what she wants,when she wants.and i am sure if it was her son who said "i have an exam come later" she would not have said "you are not my son don't come here" etc
despite all that i said ok when my husband asked shall we take her in. i just said wait till exam is over. and for that he behaves like this.
i guess i just wanted to vent. and to get your input about what you think about this situation.
thank you..
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