I recently met a guy who is completely perfect. We're both PhD students in the same field, we have the same sense of humour and I find him very attractive. Since meeting at a conference we've chatted on and off on Facebook for over a year and met up (along with another friend) when he was in the country recently.
Since meeting again in person I can't seem to stop thinking about him, and as more than just a friend. I find myself feeling down if I haven't spoken to him, and when we chat it makes me smile. We talk fairly regularly (usually at least every 2-3 days) and he makes an effort to initiate conversations with me.
The problem is I shouldn't be feeling like this - I have a long term boyfriend (I'm a bit unsure about this relationship for other reasons, but don't think this is an excuse). We don't flirt, we just chat, but I definitely feel something more than friendship. He's single but I don't know whether he feels the same way - he knows I have a boyfriend and I don't think he'd cross the line. I've also mentioned that I met up with him to my boyfriend, so it's not like I'm keeping secrets.
Is it wrong to keep chatting to him (if we keep the conversation completely non-flirty?) or should I distance myself and hope these feelings subside?
I sometimes find myself trying not to speak to him, but I'm not very good at resisting temptation! Plus I value him as a friend and he's always keen to help me with my PhD work and offer advice.
Any advice appreciated :)
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