Long story as short as possible. Meet my wife 7 years ago. Everything was great! We were very active (couple times a week). After 2 years we got married. Leading up to it the sex had slowed down a little but still fairly regular. We got married in november and the next march (4 months later) she decided she needed to get blood work done to see if she needed to go back on thyroid meds because she had been feeling somewhat tired.
Later that day the Dr called her back freaking out because her creatinine was really high (kidney failure). Nobody could figure out why her kidneys were failing so we took her to Hopkins and low and behold they found sarcoidosis (granulomus type disease that is extremely rare for it to attack kidneys) had attacked her kidneys. They put her on meds to halt the sarc and she regained a little function. It bought her almost 3 years of not needing dialysis. Sex at this time was maybe once a week sometimes once every other.
Well she is now 2 years into home hemo dialysis which I have to help her with 4 evenings a week after work. Each treatment takes about 3 hours start to finish. The last 2 years has been maybe once a month for sex and that is only because I push and virtually beg her. I am a very sexual person. I could easily go 3 times a day every day.
They claim most woman regain there drive after they get a transplant but a few don't. It is looking like another 1 to 2 years before she gets a transplant. I love my wife dearly and don't want to be with anybody else. BUT its been bad enough that finding somebody on the side has crossed my mind. For me sex is not am emotional thing at all.
She is 40 and I am 35. This has completely taken the chance of her having kids off the table so we now have an egg donor and surrogate that just reached the first trimester. Not only do we rarely ever have sex but it has completely taken away even trying to have a chiuld naturally. How many people have had that taken away for crying out loud? I cant and will never ever be able to even try to father a child naturally. That bothers me big time. Its like taking away your manhood. Yes my stuff works (actually incredible sperm test results) because we have a child on the way but to never in my life even be able to try naturally? It is all bearing down on me at this point and some on the side is seriously looking better and better every day. I will say I am not religious at all so please don't spew the marriage stuff on me. I only have one life and a major part has been taken away from me.
:(
I feel like my situation is 1 in a million. Anybody have any thoughts or ideas on this?
Later that day the Dr called her back freaking out because her creatinine was really high (kidney failure). Nobody could figure out why her kidneys were failing so we took her to Hopkins and low and behold they found sarcoidosis (granulomus type disease that is extremely rare for it to attack kidneys) had attacked her kidneys. They put her on meds to halt the sarc and she regained a little function. It bought her almost 3 years of not needing dialysis. Sex at this time was maybe once a week sometimes once every other.
Well she is now 2 years into home hemo dialysis which I have to help her with 4 evenings a week after work. Each treatment takes about 3 hours start to finish. The last 2 years has been maybe once a month for sex and that is only because I push and virtually beg her. I am a very sexual person. I could easily go 3 times a day every day.
They claim most woman regain there drive after they get a transplant but a few don't. It is looking like another 1 to 2 years before she gets a transplant. I love my wife dearly and don't want to be with anybody else. BUT its been bad enough that finding somebody on the side has crossed my mind. For me sex is not am emotional thing at all.
She is 40 and I am 35. This has completely taken the chance of her having kids off the table so we now have an egg donor and surrogate that just reached the first trimester. Not only do we rarely ever have sex but it has completely taken away even trying to have a chiuld naturally. How many people have had that taken away for crying out loud? I cant and will never ever be able to even try to father a child naturally. That bothers me big time. Its like taking away your manhood. Yes my stuff works (actually incredible sperm test results) because we have a child on the way but to never in my life even be able to try naturally? It is all bearing down on me at this point and some on the side is seriously looking better and better every day. I will say I am not religious at all so please don't spew the marriage stuff on me. I only have one life and a major part has been taken away from me.
:(
I feel like my situation is 1 in a million. Anybody have any thoughts or ideas on this?
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