Hello,
I'm hoping somebody out there will be able to offer some advice. I've been married for almost 2 years (anniversary in May) but we've been together for 6 years. I want to say upfront that I love my husband and I can't imagine life without him... but...
I've discovered that my husband pretends to be a girl online. I know when he has played online video games, he plays as a girl but this is different. He has a whole Twitter account set up as some 20-something year old (who is bi). I found out this a couple months ago as "she" posted a photo and I recognized our apartment. I confronted him about it and he said he took the picture but sent it to a friend. I asked if he was her, he said no. He said maybe it was his friend from the online game he played. I was pretty skeptical but I tried to let it go.
Tonight I was working on work and had to retrieve a file from my recycling bin. There was a deleted picture from today of a skirt. I checked "her" profile and sure enough, picture of skirt was posted and some kind of "great weather" tweet. I don't know what to do. When he is on this twitter account he flirts with other girls (as a girl) and favourites a lot of naked female pictures.
His phone is constantly going off but I haven't checked because see... he's done this before. I read from one of his online games a chat he was having with another girl so I checked his phone. Sure enough there were texts there between the two, him acting as a lesbian, saying his girlfriend was so ****ing hot. He has never, ever said that about me. We had a huge fight about it and he kept telling me that it didn't mean anything and that I needed to calm down and trust him. To be honest, I haven't really trusted him since. He's said throughout our whole relationship that he can't be with somebody who doesn't trust him. His phone is password protected and he refuses for me to see it (I asked before when I saw that picture and he said we should be allowed our privacy).
And so today happened and I don't know how to handle this.
I'm not good at confrontation, I'm a huge wimp, but my feelings are hurt. I don't think he would physically cheat on me but he's doing this for some reason, right?
Why would a 30-something man with no job but a wife who loves him do this?
I hope I've posted this in the right spot and that somebody out there can give me advice.
Thanks.
I'm hoping somebody out there will be able to offer some advice. I've been married for almost 2 years (anniversary in May) but we've been together for 6 years. I want to say upfront that I love my husband and I can't imagine life without him... but...
I've discovered that my husband pretends to be a girl online. I know when he has played online video games, he plays as a girl but this is different. He has a whole Twitter account set up as some 20-something year old (who is bi). I found out this a couple months ago as "she" posted a photo and I recognized our apartment. I confronted him about it and he said he took the picture but sent it to a friend. I asked if he was her, he said no. He said maybe it was his friend from the online game he played. I was pretty skeptical but I tried to let it go.
Tonight I was working on work and had to retrieve a file from my recycling bin. There was a deleted picture from today of a skirt. I checked "her" profile and sure enough, picture of skirt was posted and some kind of "great weather" tweet. I don't know what to do. When he is on this twitter account he flirts with other girls (as a girl) and favourites a lot of naked female pictures.
His phone is constantly going off but I haven't checked because see... he's done this before. I read from one of his online games a chat he was having with another girl so I checked his phone. Sure enough there were texts there between the two, him acting as a lesbian, saying his girlfriend was so ****ing hot. He has never, ever said that about me. We had a huge fight about it and he kept telling me that it didn't mean anything and that I needed to calm down and trust him. To be honest, I haven't really trusted him since. He's said throughout our whole relationship that he can't be with somebody who doesn't trust him. His phone is password protected and he refuses for me to see it (I asked before when I saw that picture and he said we should be allowed our privacy).
And so today happened and I don't know how to handle this.
I'm not good at confrontation, I'm a huge wimp, but my feelings are hurt. I don't think he would physically cheat on me but he's doing this for some reason, right?
Why would a 30-something man with no job but a wife who loves him do this?
I hope I've posted this in the right spot and that somebody out there can give me advice.
Thanks.
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