Hi everyone, I am new to this site and would appreciate some advice on my dilemma, SO her goes: I have been dating a girl now for a little over 3 months. Things have been going great till recently..We are both soo compatible so far and i know sounds crazy,but both love each other alot and have talked about a future together.. im 39 and she is 37...I know your prolly already saying you barely know her,and already have mentioned marriage someday,lol. So anyways a little background on her, she suffers from depression from whatever happened to her at a young age. She was taking medication since she was a teen. So when we first met, she was so affectionate, and loving and couldnt keep her hands off me. Recently(about month ago or so) she stopped taking meds(not sure if dr orders,but is trying to get off them) she started to be a little distant and not feeling good about herself. initially sex was fantastic, was incredible!!! Since weening off meds she hasnt b een into it much. Its been now 3 weeks since we've had sex,mind you i only see her on weekends due to our schedules..im not a horn dog, but to me this seems not normal. she is affectionate when we are together, holding hands,cuddling etc, but making out,or sex is really not there for last few weeks.she kisses me fine, but just doesnt feel right. I have confronted her a couple times about it, and she feels bad about it. I saw her this weeknd and same thing happened. tried to make out with her and she kinda turned her head jokingly. She is sick with a soar throat, and not feeling to hot,but still.. SO a little later i said whats going on, why dont u want to kiss me??? She says i dont wanna make you sick,i said basically in a nice way, thats a bunch of b.s;as i was sick a week prior with same thing and she is not gonna get me sick again. I told her this is not normal!!! I am a great communicator about feelings etc, and she is not as good at it. I told her that if this happened a couple times, no big deal, but there is a trend here, happoening alot, so its not right. She thought i was being too sensitive etc at first.. I said go ask any of your girlfriends and they will tell u this is not normal. this type of thing happens when you have been married for yrs, not dating for a few months. I should know, i was married 14 yrs and this happened after yrs of being together..She ended up saying she was sorry and would be more aware of how she was making me feel. I even went as far as telling her, that i thought she was dating someone else on the side, she was shock what i said!!! I honestly feel she is not doing that, she is soo busy with work and her kids that even if she wanted to do that she really couldnt. Just said to her i dont really feel that, but she makes it seem that way.. Later that night she said she feels she is really gross and fat and doesnt feel good about herself. Although i tell her she is beautiful it doesnt really help...We went to be d that night and we talked a little bit, and kinda tested her and asked if she wanted to have sex, she said she would if i wanted, but kinda felt she didnt feel good about it. Said i dont wanna make u do something u dont wanna do. then she said she thinks she will get back on her meds. maybe my talk with her convinced her to take meds,dunno.. I was leaving in morning and gave her a hug, and she said,"im sorry you are disappointed in me" I was like What??? i said im not!!! She said well she was disappointed in herself..so any advice is appreciated!! i know the first response im sure ill get, oh just leave her...you only dated a few months..too much drama,etc etc.. I truley love her and see alot of great qualities in her..thanks
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