As my ex-wife and I were going through our divorce last year, she put together a 50/50 custody schedule that was a mess, but seemed to work with her 3rd shift schedule and my 1st shift schedule.
A couple of months later, she came up with a new schedule (2 week rotating) to accommodate her transition to first shift. Now, she is requesting to alter days nearly every week. So much so, that it's hard for me to remember what week of the two week rotation that we are on.
A few days ago she said she wanted to change a couple of days this week, and offered to take my son this Friday when I would normally have him. Thought it was a bit odd, she typically never offers to take him for additional time. Today, I received a text that she would like me to take him NEXT Friday because she needs to work 2nd shift -which is also odd, since during our entire marriage, she never had to work a different shift.
Now, I feel like this was all pre-planned. I know she is seeing someone else, so I kind of want to draw the line and say that we need to stick to our court ordered arrangement. I don't know if I should do that because (1) I would definitely take my son an extra day if needed since I love having him (2) The moment I need help for a legitimate reason, she will throw it in my face if I decline.
She cheated, lied about it, broke the marriage off and I just feel like she is still being manipulative... I literally have no idea why I still love this woman. I have always been pleasant and cordial despite the fact that I am devastated by what happened to us and the fact that she treats me like garbage. I don't think I should be a doormat any longer. Thoughts?
A couple of months later, she came up with a new schedule (2 week rotating) to accommodate her transition to first shift. Now, she is requesting to alter days nearly every week. So much so, that it's hard for me to remember what week of the two week rotation that we are on.
A few days ago she said she wanted to change a couple of days this week, and offered to take my son this Friday when I would normally have him. Thought it was a bit odd, she typically never offers to take him for additional time. Today, I received a text that she would like me to take him NEXT Friday because she needs to work 2nd shift -which is also odd, since during our entire marriage, she never had to work a different shift.
Now, I feel like this was all pre-planned. I know she is seeing someone else, so I kind of want to draw the line and say that we need to stick to our court ordered arrangement. I don't know if I should do that because (1) I would definitely take my son an extra day if needed since I love having him (2) The moment I need help for a legitimate reason, she will throw it in my face if I decline.
She cheated, lied about it, broke the marriage off and I just feel like she is still being manipulative... I literally have no idea why I still love this woman. I have always been pleasant and cordial despite the fact that I am devastated by what happened to us and the fact that she treats me like garbage. I don't think I should be a doormat any longer. Thoughts?
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