Ok so you know how the classic way of thinking about dating is that men have to make the first move and be all proactive right? Apparently women love to be courted and this is how it works best. Well in my case it's the opposite - when I try to take up the role of the man, be active and seek out women I fail, often miserably. However, when I'm out somewhere with no intent on picking up girls, then all of a sudden I magically have more success with them and they respond to me better. :p
Bit of back-story for better understanding:
My history with women is pretty bad to say the least, but I've had some good moments. I didn't used to try to get girls at all up until I was like 16-17 years old, but the funny thing is I had some girls liking me up until those years. And the funny thing is that I never even expected them to like me, we just talked occasionally, it wasn't like I was putting the moves on them.
Fast forward to age 18, I understand that I'm lagging behind my friends who are getting girlfriends and I decide to try to get a girlfriend, in an almost desperate way. This is probably the main problem, I was too desperate.
The worst was this first semester in uni - went on my first two dates, failed miserably, destroyed my confidence. Tried really hard to use the tips I had learned on the internet and attempted to meet new girls, they ignored me almost immediately. But then when I gave up I saw that I was doing way better when I wasn't forcing myself to go out and meet girls out of necessity. Side-note, I'm also really lazy to try too hard with all that flirting and pick-up and I don't like it because it's fake.
So what gives, what do you think? Is it really better to just sit there and wait for opportunities to come? Won't girls find my laziness to go and get them as a bit of a turnoff?
Bit of back-story for better understanding:
My history with women is pretty bad to say the least, but I've had some good moments. I didn't used to try to get girls at all up until I was like 16-17 years old, but the funny thing is I had some girls liking me up until those years. And the funny thing is that I never even expected them to like me, we just talked occasionally, it wasn't like I was putting the moves on them.
Fast forward to age 18, I understand that I'm lagging behind my friends who are getting girlfriends and I decide to try to get a girlfriend, in an almost desperate way. This is probably the main problem, I was too desperate.
The worst was this first semester in uni - went on my first two dates, failed miserably, destroyed my confidence. Tried really hard to use the tips I had learned on the internet and attempted to meet new girls, they ignored me almost immediately. But then when I gave up I saw that I was doing way better when I wasn't forcing myself to go out and meet girls out of necessity. Side-note, I'm also really lazy to try too hard with all that flirting and pick-up and I don't like it because it's fake.
So what gives, what do you think? Is it really better to just sit there and wait for opportunities to come? Won't girls find my laziness to go and get them as a bit of a turnoff?
Put the internet to work for you.
No comments:
Post a Comment