(I know girls can do this too, but Im a girl so im writing from my perspective)
basically when I meet a new guy and we become friends, hang out in a friendly way, dont go on "dates", he will talk to me like a friend, wont ever flirt or touch me apart from maybe hugging hello/bye, wont ever compliment me or even say something like "youre pretty", they wont act like they want anything more than just friendship, so thats all i think we are, friends. then after a few months theyll turn around and say things like "soo where are we going? i thought we were hitting it off really well" and say they thought we were heading towards a relationship, when I dont know where this comes from when they havent acted attracted or interested in that way?
I dont flirt either, so Im not leading them on myself. i will just be friendly. i have a lot of male friends so hanging around guys and talking normally and not crossing the line and being flirty is normal for me.
I only ask because I met a guy at uni and he had a gf, he added me on facebook and we got talking and became friendly. we hang out at uni, we just go for lunch. ill invite other friends along too sometimes (he's always okay with this). he never flirted or acted interested. him and his gf broke up and things remained the same between us, he didnt start being flirty or complimentary. then after a few months, i read something out aloud which was about something to do with your love life isnt going the way youd hoped (i dont want to make it too obvious incase he uses this site) and he replied "yup that sounds about right" then the next day he went off, he locked himself away and wasnt for coming to class or to get me for lunch anymore. i tried to be a supportive friend. but i got the impression that he somehow felt rejected by me and this was his reaction to it. when as i said he didnt act attracted.
i know guys can be shy, im shy too, but i dont understand this reaction or when they suddenly stop being friends with you out the blue, when they havent flirted with you or implied in any way they want more than friendship.
basically when I meet a new guy and we become friends, hang out in a friendly way, dont go on "dates", he will talk to me like a friend, wont ever flirt or touch me apart from maybe hugging hello/bye, wont ever compliment me or even say something like "youre pretty", they wont act like they want anything more than just friendship, so thats all i think we are, friends. then after a few months theyll turn around and say things like "soo where are we going? i thought we were hitting it off really well" and say they thought we were heading towards a relationship, when I dont know where this comes from when they havent acted attracted or interested in that way?
I dont flirt either, so Im not leading them on myself. i will just be friendly. i have a lot of male friends so hanging around guys and talking normally and not crossing the line and being flirty is normal for me.
I only ask because I met a guy at uni and he had a gf, he added me on facebook and we got talking and became friendly. we hang out at uni, we just go for lunch. ill invite other friends along too sometimes (he's always okay with this). he never flirted or acted interested. him and his gf broke up and things remained the same between us, he didnt start being flirty or complimentary. then after a few months, i read something out aloud which was about something to do with your love life isnt going the way youd hoped (i dont want to make it too obvious incase he uses this site) and he replied "yup that sounds about right" then the next day he went off, he locked himself away and wasnt for coming to class or to get me for lunch anymore. i tried to be a supportive friend. but i got the impression that he somehow felt rejected by me and this was his reaction to it. when as i said he didnt act attracted.
i know guys can be shy, im shy too, but i dont understand this reaction or when they suddenly stop being friends with you out the blue, when they havent flirted with you or implied in any way they want more than friendship.
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