My mom and dad got divorced around 20 years ago and my mom has been single ever since. She's also somewhat disabled with rheumatoid arthritis. My wife and I got married a little over a year ago and there have been tons of problems between them.
Actually, the main problem is my mom's attitude towards my wife. It seems like her attitude is very often negative towards her and she's always doing these subtle put downs.
I've fought with my mom so many times about this she always denies doing anything wrong.
I'm actually starting to believe that her attitude may be unintentional but I'm not sure. My mom has a pretty lonely life since she's by herself and not able to do the things she wants to, so that's why I'm thinking she has some emotional issues that she doesn't fully realize.
Anyway, I've tried to talk to my mom about it but I don't see much progress. The only thing I've noticed is that she is much nicer to my wife when I'm around but I think she is different as soon as I leave the room. This situation has become the biggest source of stress I've ever had because I have to be there for my mom since she needs help, but then I have to minimize the amount of time she see's my wife. Juggling these things is almost impossible and it has almost driven me insane.
I know MIL issues are common but I feel like this is a special case and I'm not sure what to do. Has anybody dealt with something similar to this?
Actually, the main problem is my mom's attitude towards my wife. It seems like her attitude is very often negative towards her and she's always doing these subtle put downs.
I've fought with my mom so many times about this she always denies doing anything wrong.
I'm actually starting to believe that her attitude may be unintentional but I'm not sure. My mom has a pretty lonely life since she's by herself and not able to do the things she wants to, so that's why I'm thinking she has some emotional issues that she doesn't fully realize.
Anyway, I've tried to talk to my mom about it but I don't see much progress. The only thing I've noticed is that she is much nicer to my wife when I'm around but I think she is different as soon as I leave the room. This situation has become the biggest source of stress I've ever had because I have to be there for my mom since she needs help, but then I have to minimize the amount of time she see's my wife. Juggling these things is almost impossible and it has almost driven me insane.
I know MIL issues are common but I feel like this is a special case and I'm not sure what to do. Has anybody dealt with something similar to this?
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