I've been separated from WW since Nov 2012. Things are rather difficult right now (the worst since the first couple months after dday) in terms of anxiety, depression, etc. I feel overwhelmed with life...she's still very irresponsible and makes stupid decisions that impact mine and the kid's lives. I feel angry and out of control due to the fact I am still tied to her and that her bad choices affect me. I wish honestly she would just go away and I'd never see her again, but obviously that's not an option.
She's in Mexico for a week right now (on my dime from child support) and hasn't worked since early January. She asked me for her child support check early this month. Argh.
I started thinking that a lot of my stress/anxiety stems from the fact that we are not divorced yet - I am in limbo. I so badly want it to be official...even though her bad decisions will still affect the kids and me - it seems there will be some closure there, and maybe I can move on? I also feel f'd up about dating and relationships, but again, I got to thinking I'm still married, that has got to have a negative affect on me with women, not to mention it's a deterrent to many women (me still being married).
Anyway, although I'm sure for many people, when you are actually divorced, there's a sadness there, as it's official - your marriage is done. But did anyone here find it helped them, eased their stress/anxiety, like now you can actually really start living your new life?
She's in Mexico for a week right now (on my dime from child support) and hasn't worked since early January. She asked me for her child support check early this month. Argh.
I started thinking that a lot of my stress/anxiety stems from the fact that we are not divorced yet - I am in limbo. I so badly want it to be official...even though her bad decisions will still affect the kids and me - it seems there will be some closure there, and maybe I can move on? I also feel f'd up about dating and relationships, but again, I got to thinking I'm still married, that has got to have a negative affect on me with women, not to mention it's a deterrent to many women (me still being married).
Anyway, although I'm sure for many people, when you are actually divorced, there's a sadness there, as it's official - your marriage is done. But did anyone here find it helped them, eased their stress/anxiety, like now you can actually really start living your new life?
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