Hello,
I am 26 years old, my wife is 24. We are newlyweds and very happy together. We have never encountered anything in our relationship we couldn't handle with communication. Both of us are quite reasonable and level headed. I trust her and to the best of my knowledge, she trusts me, however, a situation has arisen and I'm at a bit of a crossroad with this one.
My wife rides horses and desires to go to professional shows. This is her dream and I support it 100%. We moved only a few weeks ago to a new area where she has more opportunity accomplish this dream. We discovered a show barn that seemed like everything she was looking for with one issue; the owner is a registered sex offender in the third degree. She was warned of this man by another barn she had an interview with, and from what we were told, he was arrested for having sexual relations with a 14 year old at age 29. He is 43 now, and I found many public records reflecting the sexual offense. He does have other public records available which include offenses for driving on an expired license, without registration, speeding, etc, but I am unable to verify if a subsequent offense has been committed.
My concern is that this large man (6'2 moderately overweight ~ 200lbs) will pose a risk to my wife and that it is a reckless decision to trust someone with this type of criminal history. I have voiced my concern to my wife about this and communicated all of my feelings and thoughts to her, but told her it is ultimately up to her what she decides as it is her career she is building. Despite the man's criminal record, my wife seems content on taking the job even though there will be times where she is alone with him both at the barn and in other states during travel to other shows. I am very uncomfortable with my wife being employed by this man, but it doesn't seem to phase her. Am I being too paranoid? Is it wrong of me to feel this uncomfortable about the risk? Should I trust someone with a criminal record with my wife? I've tried to reason with myself as to where these feels are comprised from and if they are justified and I feel as if there is nothing I can do. I don't min d if my wife works with members of the opposite sex, but what guarantee do I have that he will not commit the same crime again with my wife as the target? Do I trust her judgment and hope for the best?
Any thoughts?
I am 26 years old, my wife is 24. We are newlyweds and very happy together. We have never encountered anything in our relationship we couldn't handle with communication. Both of us are quite reasonable and level headed. I trust her and to the best of my knowledge, she trusts me, however, a situation has arisen and I'm at a bit of a crossroad with this one.
My wife rides horses and desires to go to professional shows. This is her dream and I support it 100%. We moved only a few weeks ago to a new area where she has more opportunity accomplish this dream. We discovered a show barn that seemed like everything she was looking for with one issue; the owner is a registered sex offender in the third degree. She was warned of this man by another barn she had an interview with, and from what we were told, he was arrested for having sexual relations with a 14 year old at age 29. He is 43 now, and I found many public records reflecting the sexual offense. He does have other public records available which include offenses for driving on an expired license, without registration, speeding, etc, but I am unable to verify if a subsequent offense has been committed.
My concern is that this large man (6'2 moderately overweight ~ 200lbs) will pose a risk to my wife and that it is a reckless decision to trust someone with this type of criminal history. I have voiced my concern to my wife about this and communicated all of my feelings and thoughts to her, but told her it is ultimately up to her what she decides as it is her career she is building. Despite the man's criminal record, my wife seems content on taking the job even though there will be times where she is alone with him both at the barn and in other states during travel to other shows. I am very uncomfortable with my wife being employed by this man, but it doesn't seem to phase her. Am I being too paranoid? Is it wrong of me to feel this uncomfortable about the risk? Should I trust someone with a criminal record with my wife? I've tried to reason with myself as to where these feels are comprised from and if they are justified and I feel as if there is nothing I can do. I don't min d if my wife works with members of the opposite sex, but what guarantee do I have that he will not commit the same crime again with my wife as the target? Do I trust her judgment and hope for the best?
Any thoughts?
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