I posted a thread yesterday in which my sister, 16 is dating a 21 year old guy with a bad attitude. She's a naive virgin susceptible to manipulation and he's a 6'5 black guy on steroids. The thread can be found here:
http://www.thestudentroom.co.uk/show....php?t=2564106
Update: This morning I approached my dad and told him about my sister. We talked for hours alone and while at first he was angry, he settled down. I told him my sister could be pregnant and that she is intent on keeping the baby to which he replied 'As long as she's happy, it doesn't matter, it's her life.' I was incredibly frustrated by this reply because my dad doesn't understand that if my sister has this guy's baby then she'll ruin her life. She'll become a single mum claiming benefits and such.
My sister came into the conversation and after she shouted and screamed at me and my dad, she confessed and told is that she is in fact, pregnant and is intent on keeping the baby. I asked her why she wants to have a child at 16, with no means of income, a job, or her own house even. She essentially said that she always wanted a 'black baby' from a 'tall and strong' black guy. She gave me her phone and we read her messages to her friend. My sister isn't bright and her friend's already have boyfriends. She described that it's one big competition to become pregnant with a black guy's baby. She said in her texts that she'll love the the attention others will give her and her mixed race baby. She essentially sees this baby as a fashion accessory and doesn't understand the bigger picture. This child is a person with needs and feelings and my sister and her friends even, don't understand this.
My sister argued that because she's not particularly bright then what future does she have other than pregnancy and being a stay at home housewife? I wasn't sure how to answer this but my dad seemed to give better advice on this. In her texts she says 'she want to find rich guys on dating sites and get pregnant'. I was sickened by her lack of self respect and childish realisations.
My mum doesn't yet know about any of this but will later this evening when she comes home from work. My family isn't bound my love like other families. It's distant and my mum had an affair 3 years ago so my parents relationship is still recovering even now. My mum is temperamental around my dad.
I feel sick inside and I'm worried about tonight. I have no idea how my mum will react to this.
http://www.thestudentroom.co.uk/show....php?t=2564106
Update: This morning I approached my dad and told him about my sister. We talked for hours alone and while at first he was angry, he settled down. I told him my sister could be pregnant and that she is intent on keeping the baby to which he replied 'As long as she's happy, it doesn't matter, it's her life.' I was incredibly frustrated by this reply because my dad doesn't understand that if my sister has this guy's baby then she'll ruin her life. She'll become a single mum claiming benefits and such.
My sister came into the conversation and after she shouted and screamed at me and my dad, she confessed and told is that she is in fact, pregnant and is intent on keeping the baby. I asked her why she wants to have a child at 16, with no means of income, a job, or her own house even. She essentially said that she always wanted a 'black baby' from a 'tall and strong' black guy. She gave me her phone and we read her messages to her friend. My sister isn't bright and her friend's already have boyfriends. She described that it's one big competition to become pregnant with a black guy's baby. She said in her texts that she'll love the the attention others will give her and her mixed race baby. She essentially sees this baby as a fashion accessory and doesn't understand the bigger picture. This child is a person with needs and feelings and my sister and her friends even, don't understand this.
My sister argued that because she's not particularly bright then what future does she have other than pregnancy and being a stay at home housewife? I wasn't sure how to answer this but my dad seemed to give better advice on this. In her texts she says 'she want to find rich guys on dating sites and get pregnant'. I was sickened by her lack of self respect and childish realisations.
My mum doesn't yet know about any of this but will later this evening when she comes home from work. My family isn't bound my love like other families. It's distant and my mum had an affair 3 years ago so my parents relationship is still recovering even now. My mum is temperamental around my dad.
I feel sick inside and I'm worried about tonight. I have no idea how my mum will react to this.
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