I'm so glad I found this group because I need to vent some frustration and don't want to share all my thoughts and problems with friends.
My husband has a few part time jobs, he's not had one full time job with health benefits in 10 years. And now he's losing his main job. We've known for a few months. He's ambitious but only for things that really interest him. We moved to a different state for his job about 7 years ago when my daughter was a newborn. I had a job I loved, but I left for him. We agreed I would stay home with the baby. I had another child. He's never had anything secure this entire time. I went back to school online while I was pregnant and nursing. I worked from home when I could the entire time, while still doing all the cooking and cleaning and child rearing. He worked too but we always seemed to just scrape by.
Now, I work a lot from home and still do all the household chores. He wants to start his own business, ride his bike competitively, etc...I send him jobs to apply for all the time. He never gets calls for interviews. I'm sick about it and never sleep because I'm so stressed. When I show him I'm upset he pulls away and thinks I don't believe in him. I just feel so much resentment and anger. I bite my tongue all the time but I want to scream at him to just find a JOB! I feel so angry because I bust my butt doing everything I can and never sleep and just worry constantly. I don't enjoy my life anymore. I don't even want him to touch me which makes everything worse. My children come home from school talking excitedly about friends vacations they have planned and fun things to do and I have to tell them that we cannot afford it. I feel like I let myself down by leaving a great job where I could still be to this day. I feel like he let me down and I worry that this will ruin us. I worry that I chose the wrong man because I am not able to force myself to support him and feel close to him.
My husband has a few part time jobs, he's not had one full time job with health benefits in 10 years. And now he's losing his main job. We've known for a few months. He's ambitious but only for things that really interest him. We moved to a different state for his job about 7 years ago when my daughter was a newborn. I had a job I loved, but I left for him. We agreed I would stay home with the baby. I had another child. He's never had anything secure this entire time. I went back to school online while I was pregnant and nursing. I worked from home when I could the entire time, while still doing all the cooking and cleaning and child rearing. He worked too but we always seemed to just scrape by.
Now, I work a lot from home and still do all the household chores. He wants to start his own business, ride his bike competitively, etc...I send him jobs to apply for all the time. He never gets calls for interviews. I'm sick about it and never sleep because I'm so stressed. When I show him I'm upset he pulls away and thinks I don't believe in him. I just feel so much resentment and anger. I bite my tongue all the time but I want to scream at him to just find a JOB! I feel so angry because I bust my butt doing everything I can and never sleep and just worry constantly. I don't enjoy my life anymore. I don't even want him to touch me which makes everything worse. My children come home from school talking excitedly about friends vacations they have planned and fun things to do and I have to tell them that we cannot afford it. I feel like I let myself down by leaving a great job where I could still be to this day. I feel like he let me down and I worry that this will ruin us. I worry that I chose the wrong man because I am not able to force myself to support him and feel close to him.
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