I sometimes want to go back in time to the moment I wasn't in a relationship.
So girlfriend have been cancelling plans as of recent. Things pop up and I assume my girlfriend had a lot going on. We're not really the most communicative of people and we can spend some days not talking at all. I don't know why, but it is how it is.
Over Christmas, we kept in contact, but barely our conversations extend. I try to keep it going, but conversation dies off and I go back to doing my own thing. After new years, I thought it was going great. We had a talk, we know what our goals are and we tried working on it. When the plans got canceled, I told her I was miffed and asked her when the next time I was free.
Meanwhile, my friend from the course, whom I considered one of my best friends and like a little sister to me, wanted to have a night out with some drinks and food. I haven't seen her since first semester ended.
Then she asked me to talk. I thought "Okay" and so I did.
She was there. Her friends was there. And she began to give me a *******ing, saying I haven't been there enough and that I've been spending too much time with my friends. That really pisses me off because I tried to spend time with her, but she was either busy or I had to do something. But the fact she did it in front of her friends really annoyed me.
Instead of causing a scene, I just took it and just decided to send a facebook message about how wrong she was for bringing our relationship problems to in front of her friend. What is even worse is the fact that she believes my female friend has a thing for me and there is some ulterior motive, just because I've been helping her getting over a break-up.
I have no attraction whatsoever to my friend. But the fact she straight up told me she doesn't like her, which I can understand. But also saying that she will threaten her to back off because she's 'pushing the friendzone' a little too far is ****ing frightening. I saw the look in her eye as she said it and that was a concern.
I talked to her after the argument through facebook and I agreed she was right on the "not enough time spent together", but I straight up told her I can't always initiate everything. She has to as well. Maybe she's used to being in a relationship where it's the guy doing everything, but I'm not that type of person. I don't want to carry the relationship by myself, she has to help carry it too.
This means if she wants to ask me out and do something, then ask me. If she wants a dinner, then ask me. I asked her if she wanted to come over and I can cook her some food. I did that last time.
But regarding my friend, it's going to be a concern for me. She is going to be my roommate next year. We're getting a houseshare with two other friends (who are guys). If that is an issue now, I dread to think what would happen if my girlfriend suddenly gets defensive.
What should I do about this? I'm having dinner with her at 12pm. As of where the messages stand, she apologised to me regarding telling me off whilst her friends are there and she is still asking if we work.
I don't want to break up with her, but I hate being made out I have been a neglectful boyfriend with a supposed girl in the friend zone that is trying to get my dick every time.
So girlfriend have been cancelling plans as of recent. Things pop up and I assume my girlfriend had a lot going on. We're not really the most communicative of people and we can spend some days not talking at all. I don't know why, but it is how it is.
Over Christmas, we kept in contact, but barely our conversations extend. I try to keep it going, but conversation dies off and I go back to doing my own thing. After new years, I thought it was going great. We had a talk, we know what our goals are and we tried working on it. When the plans got canceled, I told her I was miffed and asked her when the next time I was free.
Meanwhile, my friend from the course, whom I considered one of my best friends and like a little sister to me, wanted to have a night out with some drinks and food. I haven't seen her since first semester ended.
Then she asked me to talk. I thought "Okay" and so I did.
She was there. Her friends was there. And she began to give me a *******ing, saying I haven't been there enough and that I've been spending too much time with my friends. That really pisses me off because I tried to spend time with her, but she was either busy or I had to do something. But the fact she did it in front of her friends really annoyed me.
Instead of causing a scene, I just took it and just decided to send a facebook message about how wrong she was for bringing our relationship problems to in front of her friend. What is even worse is the fact that she believes my female friend has a thing for me and there is some ulterior motive, just because I've been helping her getting over a break-up.
I have no attraction whatsoever to my friend. But the fact she straight up told me she doesn't like her, which I can understand. But also saying that she will threaten her to back off because she's 'pushing the friendzone' a little too far is ****ing frightening. I saw the look in her eye as she said it and that was a concern.
I talked to her after the argument through facebook and I agreed she was right on the "not enough time spent together", but I straight up told her I can't always initiate everything. She has to as well. Maybe she's used to being in a relationship where it's the guy doing everything, but I'm not that type of person. I don't want to carry the relationship by myself, she has to help carry it too.
This means if she wants to ask me out and do something, then ask me. If she wants a dinner, then ask me. I asked her if she wanted to come over and I can cook her some food. I did that last time.
But regarding my friend, it's going to be a concern for me. She is going to be my roommate next year. We're getting a houseshare with two other friends (who are guys). If that is an issue now, I dread to think what would happen if my girlfriend suddenly gets defensive.
What should I do about this? I'm having dinner with her at 12pm. As of where the messages stand, she apologised to me regarding telling me off whilst her friends are there and she is still asking if we work.
I don't want to break up with her, but I hate being made out I have been a neglectful boyfriend with a supposed girl in the friend zone that is trying to get my dick every time.
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