Hi everyone,
I am not sure if this is the correct place to post this but heres my story.......
I am 27 years old and have been married 8 yes 8 years and have been with my husband since the age of 15. we have 2 little boys together whom are my world. I have been compleatly in love with my husband since the day.
Although we have been in love the fighting started years ago, pretty much after the first few dates, then I became pregnant at 18 years old, while I was pregnant and working to support us he was partying and clubbing. Although this caused problems as one night while I was 8 months pregnant he shows up at my place of work with some girls he met at the club, I thought we are young things will get better.......
since then I have caught him on more then 10 occassions in compromising positions with other women:
1. a woman sitting in his laps and he was rubbing her bottom
2. comes home early in the morning with another women in his car
3. never showed up from work on many occasions on one occasion found him with another woman
and the list goes on and on all occasions he swears nothing happened, so here I am a new mom and all this is happening, and I love him and I am so niave I beleive him although everyone is telling me that he is cheating he swears hes not and I believe him. So here I am thinking oh that earing I found in our vehicle I knew wasnt mine was actually not mine alothough he made me believe it was. Fast forward to a few years later when I am pregnant with the second child (In the meantime he is spending every weekend out partying and not showing home till all hours) I am approached by a woman (also known as the town *****) tells me that she has slept with him ok do I believe it he swears its a lie but her story adds up his string of lies have changed so many times I dont know what to believe. So im devestated now and he tells me I am crazy, and got to stop believeing everything I hear and actually gets mad at me for talking to her.....
so this keeps up and to present day he is gone every weekend till all hours in the am swearing hes alone or with the boys, basically tells me where I can and cant go (got yelled at the other day for going grocery shopping) I can no longer have friends although he goes about things in a way that I feel I am going crazy and imagining things but basically he controls how i dress where i go who i talk to what i spend (and yes i work) how i wear my hair and makeup and if i speak to my family. we fight constantly, and dont enjoy doing anything together anymore as we both have compleatly different interests. so heres the kicker i reunited with an old male friend who was going through similar with his wife, on nights they would be out partying we would talk. we havnt cheated in the sexual context but have both confessed to haveing feelings for each other, I have wanted out sometwhat of my marriage for a long time, but now more then ever, my husband has a alcohol problem and i rece ntly discovered he is into drugs, and lied about it, his lying is unbearable lies about everything and everyday I hate it. but now i am worried that i wanna walk out because of the other man, i am the woman who never goes anywhere, lives and breathes for her kids and just wants affection. am i doomed for divorce? can people actually grow apart? or am i crazy?
I am not sure if this is the correct place to post this but heres my story.......
I am 27 years old and have been married 8 yes 8 years and have been with my husband since the age of 15. we have 2 little boys together whom are my world. I have been compleatly in love with my husband since the day.
Although we have been in love the fighting started years ago, pretty much after the first few dates, then I became pregnant at 18 years old, while I was pregnant and working to support us he was partying and clubbing. Although this caused problems as one night while I was 8 months pregnant he shows up at my place of work with some girls he met at the club, I thought we are young things will get better.......
since then I have caught him on more then 10 occassions in compromising positions with other women:
1. a woman sitting in his laps and he was rubbing her bottom
2. comes home early in the morning with another women in his car
3. never showed up from work on many occasions on one occasion found him with another woman
and the list goes on and on all occasions he swears nothing happened, so here I am a new mom and all this is happening, and I love him and I am so niave I beleive him although everyone is telling me that he is cheating he swears hes not and I believe him. So here I am thinking oh that earing I found in our vehicle I knew wasnt mine was actually not mine alothough he made me believe it was. Fast forward to a few years later when I am pregnant with the second child (In the meantime he is spending every weekend out partying and not showing home till all hours) I am approached by a woman (also known as the town *****) tells me that she has slept with him ok do I believe it he swears its a lie but her story adds up his string of lies have changed so many times I dont know what to believe. So im devestated now and he tells me I am crazy, and got to stop believeing everything I hear and actually gets mad at me for talking to her.....
so this keeps up and to present day he is gone every weekend till all hours in the am swearing hes alone or with the boys, basically tells me where I can and cant go (got yelled at the other day for going grocery shopping) I can no longer have friends although he goes about things in a way that I feel I am going crazy and imagining things but basically he controls how i dress where i go who i talk to what i spend (and yes i work) how i wear my hair and makeup and if i speak to my family. we fight constantly, and dont enjoy doing anything together anymore as we both have compleatly different interests. so heres the kicker i reunited with an old male friend who was going through similar with his wife, on nights they would be out partying we would talk. we havnt cheated in the sexual context but have both confessed to haveing feelings for each other, I have wanted out sometwhat of my marriage for a long time, but now more then ever, my husband has a alcohol problem and i rece ntly discovered he is into drugs, and lied about it, his lying is unbearable lies about everything and everyday I hate it. but now i am worried that i wanna walk out because of the other man, i am the woman who never goes anywhere, lives and breathes for her kids and just wants affection. am i doomed for divorce? can people actually grow apart? or am i crazy?
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