So my boyfriend was close friends with a girl for a while. Apparently nothing has actually ever happened between them, but he recently admitted he had always liked her, before me. (And so I worked out he must have liked her for around 3 years, since they first met) That was quite hard for me to take in.
I've been with him for around 10 months, and in the past he's had a girlfriend for a year or so, so his longest feelings have been for this girl. The worst thing is, he seemed to think, and some of his friends, that she had felt the same about him. (Even I had my suspicions, despite having never met her)
When I first met him, he began to develop feelings for me, but I could see he still felt something for this girl. At this point, he had hoped things would develop between them, with the encouragement of some of his friends, but then she had returned to a former boyfriend, prompting him to be upset and saying some bitter things about her and her boyfriend.
At the time, I had no idea whether we would be together, despite our feelings, so I just took it on the chin. We got together, and then after a few weeks, he slagged her off a little bit, which I found odd. I then found out she was a good friend but didn't know about us yet. He thought she might have feelings for him, and so did some of his friends, but upon finding out about me and him, she apparently seemed happy for us.
I later found out that when she had initially found out he was talking to me, she started to talk to him a lot more. In addition, she said a couple of mean things about me (because he told her everything about the complications we had, because of distance etc. but which we later resolved) so she called me a b**ch, said I must be really boring, etc. He said to his friends she's so nice, she's really good looking, etc. and told me how funny she was, but then I found out she makes fun of other girls, calling them ugly, etc. and did something a little homophobic, so I can't understand why he thought she was so lovely.
I haven't met her, but I was uncomfortable with their friendship. She's said stuff like, I want to see you, finally we'll see each other etc. and he made some kind of innuendo about them fighting each other. Texting him a few times when she knew we were on holiday, asking when he's back and stuff and not even wishing us a nice time or anything like that, not even acknowledging me in any shape or form. They always gave each other names like sweetie, dear, etc. and he's liked some close-up looking photos of her on facebook.
But he's recently moved nearer to me so far from her, and she doesn't speak to him anymore, she sent no messages at all. He texted her to ask how she was but she just said she'd been very busy and stuff. He was clearly upset about it, and again slagged her off, saying she was boring the last time they met anyway, they have nothing in common etc. He won't see her again.
So now they don't see each other or speak at all, and apparently she has a new boyfriend. I trust that he hasn't cheated on me, but I can't get over this for some reason. I am scared he always wanted her, and while he loves me, I can't compare to her. I'm quite a boring person, I don't have loads of interesting stuff to say, and she is obviously more his type, he seemed to love her colouring, style etc.
We've talked in the past and he's assured me he loves me etc. but has got annoyed a bit. He said initially she's just a friend, and I don't doubt she was, but I can't help feeling this way...
I've been with him for around 10 months, and in the past he's had a girlfriend for a year or so, so his longest feelings have been for this girl. The worst thing is, he seemed to think, and some of his friends, that she had felt the same about him. (Even I had my suspicions, despite having never met her)
When I first met him, he began to develop feelings for me, but I could see he still felt something for this girl. At this point, he had hoped things would develop between them, with the encouragement of some of his friends, but then she had returned to a former boyfriend, prompting him to be upset and saying some bitter things about her and her boyfriend.
At the time, I had no idea whether we would be together, despite our feelings, so I just took it on the chin. We got together, and then after a few weeks, he slagged her off a little bit, which I found odd. I then found out she was a good friend but didn't know about us yet. He thought she might have feelings for him, and so did some of his friends, but upon finding out about me and him, she apparently seemed happy for us.
I later found out that when she had initially found out he was talking to me, she started to talk to him a lot more. In addition, she said a couple of mean things about me (because he told her everything about the complications we had, because of distance etc. but which we later resolved) so she called me a b**ch, said I must be really boring, etc. He said to his friends she's so nice, she's really good looking, etc. and told me how funny she was, but then I found out she makes fun of other girls, calling them ugly, etc. and did something a little homophobic, so I can't understand why he thought she was so lovely.
I haven't met her, but I was uncomfortable with their friendship. She's said stuff like, I want to see you, finally we'll see each other etc. and he made some kind of innuendo about them fighting each other. Texting him a few times when she knew we were on holiday, asking when he's back and stuff and not even wishing us a nice time or anything like that, not even acknowledging me in any shape or form. They always gave each other names like sweetie, dear, etc. and he's liked some close-up looking photos of her on facebook.
But he's recently moved nearer to me so far from her, and she doesn't speak to him anymore, she sent no messages at all. He texted her to ask how she was but she just said she'd been very busy and stuff. He was clearly upset about it, and again slagged her off, saying she was boring the last time they met anyway, they have nothing in common etc. He won't see her again.
So now they don't see each other or speak at all, and apparently she has a new boyfriend. I trust that he hasn't cheated on me, but I can't get over this for some reason. I am scared he always wanted her, and while he loves me, I can't compare to her. I'm quite a boring person, I don't have loads of interesting stuff to say, and she is obviously more his type, he seemed to love her colouring, style etc.
We've talked in the past and he's assured me he loves me etc. but has got annoyed a bit. He said initially she's just a friend, and I don't doubt she was, but I can't help feeling this way...
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