Hey,
So basically I've known this guy for several years and over summer we started hooking up. To me it wasn't anything in particular but I had an open mind, and he developed feelings. I'd spoken to him in advance and explained where I stood, since I was going to uni in the September (he's several years older).
We ended up getting into a casual relationship (in the sense that there was no pressure but we felt like we might as well be together), but that's where it started to go wrong. I didn't feel like I wanted to be with him, I definitely didn't love him and didn't see any sort of future with him. We took a break a couple of months back but ended up getting back together because I enjoy spending time with him etc.
This relationship is clearly on a clock for me, I am unsatisfied with not feeling anything strong or passionate, but also I enjoy our time now.
What I am saying is should I be thinking about breaking stuff off with him or is it okay for me to be in this situation, enjoying our time for now and not be forced into a commitment situation? He keeps pushing for me to spend time with his family and stuff and I just don't want that sort of relationship now, I need my space. It makes it a lot harder that we're friends, because obviously I don't want to hurt him. What do I do, preferably without upsetting him? :/
So basically I've known this guy for several years and over summer we started hooking up. To me it wasn't anything in particular but I had an open mind, and he developed feelings. I'd spoken to him in advance and explained where I stood, since I was going to uni in the September (he's several years older).
We ended up getting into a casual relationship (in the sense that there was no pressure but we felt like we might as well be together), but that's where it started to go wrong. I didn't feel like I wanted to be with him, I definitely didn't love him and didn't see any sort of future with him. We took a break a couple of months back but ended up getting back together because I enjoy spending time with him etc.
This relationship is clearly on a clock for me, I am unsatisfied with not feeling anything strong or passionate, but also I enjoy our time now.
What I am saying is should I be thinking about breaking stuff off with him or is it okay for me to be in this situation, enjoying our time for now and not be forced into a commitment situation? He keeps pushing for me to spend time with his family and stuff and I just don't want that sort of relationship now, I need my space. It makes it a lot harder that we're friends, because obviously I don't want to hurt him. What do I do, preferably without upsetting him? :/
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